Just found out my mums cancer is terminal
updated by @gem: 07/31/17 11:26:27PM
Being angry is understandable.
Do not be sorry for saying how you feel nor for being down
My belief system is similar to yours yet, I cannot say how I would feel if I were in the position you are in now - I can only imagine..... As an outsider I can make many a statement that would not serve you because as I say, I have no means of experience of what you are going through, I truly do feel for you.
It is indeed sad and confusing with no answers to the why - staying strong for everyone is not always the way though, remember yourself and have that scream, release the build up and cry..... allow yourself to emote too.
Hi Gem - sorry to hear your news. Take a deep breath though - if you still have 2-3 years (or 3-5), that is a lot of time, to try to help her maybe overcome her cancer after all. Stranger things have happened. I am not trying to create hopes, to just come crushing down again at some point; but why not use any hope there might still be. Maybe this could actually be a real turbo for your motivation, for your spiritual work, and courses? You can send her healing energies, whenever you have the time, and energy. (N.B. I know the hard point is to send healing for a person's highest possible good (and we cannot be sure what that is?), if they are so close. But just pray and ask, that the energies are protected against any potential ego wishes of yours, which may contradict her highest purpose, and you'll be fine). And after all, the sent healing energies should save her suffering on other levels too - be more calm, be more at peace, possibly have less pain, and medication side-effects etc. It can also be an incentive to study foods, that could benefit her, crystals (just buy some jewelry she can wear, if she is not spiritual herself), etc.
My mum had cancer 10 years ago - she was not diagnoses as terminal, but it was a bad one none-the-less. I like to think that, besides two operations, and two conjoined chemos - me sending her regular distant healing helped too! Also my sister's step-mum had a very bad pancreatic cancer, but survived, perhaps because of sent distant healing too? She even now eats 'normal', without problems, even though, without a pancreas, and gall bladder, she should be on a special diet....
Supposedly there is 5 stages of grief (Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross), and anger is one of them - so it is normal!
And I would also just say a prayer, asking for help for you - to cope, be strong, be wise, etc. If noone else in your family is spiritual, you are the the luckiest yet. Obviously losing someone dear is painful, but you know too, that any loss is only temporary, as our souls are eternal....
Love and Light!
yes, look after yourself. As an empath you might be collecting emotional responses from your family too, so regular grounding and cleansing is always good. Well, you can send Reiki from a distance always even without express permission - just ask Spirit to guide the energies elsewhere, if they are not appropriate. Or deviate them to fight any possible energetic influence on her cancer in the outside....
You are more than welcome hon.
The shock is understandable too of course - Your everyday life thrown out of sync. Finding the amethyst seems like a little touch of love having been sent from somewhere (a sign so to speak)
I don`t know as much as yourself concerning stones and crystals (I carry my chakra stones everywhere but thats about it) However, thinking of you I looked up stones to aid cancer and came across sulphur. I know its not a cure all but, may hep with the negative energies that the cancer brings?
I will add sulphur is always thought of as (biblically) negative but, apparently its brilliant for thoughts, environmental clearing.... Just a thought. Thinking of you is all
Gem, I'm so sorry for this. Many of us have been there and truly understand. The best advice I can give you is the advice I wish I'd had:
Allow your mom to make her own decisions about her health.
Be there as a non-judgmental shoulder for her when she's ready to talk about things.
When and if she's willing to listen, tell her about your beliefs in a comforting way and be honest about your own feelings.
Most importantly, allow yourself to feel your feelings - again, without judgment. Some of the feelings you have will feel enormous - just allow them to wash o er your body then let them go. When we resist feeling our feelings that's when we get in trouble. Sometimes you will be completely numb. That's okay, too.
Start a journal - so you have a place to "go" with your thoughts.
Gem, recognize that no one is prepared for this kind of loss and everyone copes in their own way. There is nothing about this that will make "sense" to you. You are on a journey - the effects of which will be with you for the rest of your life. Give yourself some space to absorb that. Be kind to yourself.
As a former Hospice worker, I would strongly encourage your family to consider Hospice when the time comes. The only complaint I ever heard about Hospice was: "We wish we'd called you sooner."