Thank you, Karma.
That paragraph you wrote on personality misinterpretation could have been written by me. I am very sorry you get treated that way, but I hope it helps you to know that you made someone else (me) feel a bit less alone and strange.
Friends (with only a couple of exceptions), tend to contact me only when they need help in their lives and want someone to dump on. They do this despite my life being much more of of a mess than theirs.
People who don't need help are not attracted to me or quickly drop me since I am not interested in small talk or things like clothes shopping. I have actually asked people if I bore them and they all say no, but they feel they cannot offer what I want in a friendship. That's true, since like most empaths, I want intensity and deep connection. The idea of sitting and having a talk about the state of the world, about the unseen world, about our deepest feelings, etc. sounds boring to them.
If I try to help a friend who obviously has problems that other "friends" don't care enough to bring up, no matter how tactful I try to be, I often get "kill the messenger". This happens even with people who should know me well. Nine months ago I lost my best friend of 54 years due to tactfully asking her to discuss her serious memory and reading problems with her doctor. Both of her parents had dementia. I have brain damage and am familiar with those problems from others with the same illness that caused mine, so I was alarmed. She was furious that I could not "accept" her and ended a 54 yr. friendship. The last thing I want is acceptance! I want the kind of friends who will care enough to risk telling me when I am being an a**hole, and I am mature enough to listen because it may help my growth. My parents died young and I have no siblings, so she was the longest relationship of my life. It still hurts really badly and I doubt I will ever trust anyone who says I am their "sister" and they'll love me forever no matter what, ever again.
I have had many people tell me I am "too good to live" (What?) or the best human being they've ever met, or the most spiritual person they've ever met, or that they like knowing I am around if they need me, but actually being with me makes them feel "less than".
I have asked all of these people if I am acting like a know it all, or am too self-righteous, if I seem to be judging them or some other bad thing, and they all deny it and say they just feel good about themselves until they see how much more volunteer work I do despite being very ill, how I keep fighting my illness, or how I gave to charity from my disability check, etc., etc.
I then point out my many flaws, with which I am painfully familiar, and they laugh and say they've never seen me having a rage or any anger (a major problem due to my brain damage), and that I am always kind, which is not true at all. I just try not to inflict rages on others, and rarely feel enraged towards those I like, though my husband can't escape, poor man. I also dislike most humans and admit it, so I am certainly not the most spiritually advanced person ever, lol.
As crazy as it sounds, it seems I am being isolated and punished merely for trying to always be a better and better person. I had a handwriting analysis done once which said that I can be misunderstood, which is a shame. Understatement! Sorry to ramble, but this really hit a nerve.
Has anyone else experienced the misunderstanding problem to this extreme degree? If so, how do you handle it?
P.S. On past life regression, I had a psychic once run through my past lives, and she hit several I was already familiar with through lucid dreams, but also came up with a few I did not know about. I would give anything to have an experience like you had, janeames, where I could actually talk to a relative who had passed on. What a blessing! Thanks for telling us about it.