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@snap
2 years ago
103 posts

Well my daughter looooves crystals and I encourage her obsession. I try to limit their exposure to TV/propaganda-machine, though only with so much success. Somehow they're just really grounded and balanced. I think I'm fortunate to have kids when I'm in a much better place. I used to be pretty uptight and angry all too often.

One of the biggest things I focus on with my kids is healthy body/energy. No processed food, getting outside, getting some SUN, minimal sugar. I would hate it if I had limited control over what the kids eat. Obviously they'll decide one day but for now I can heavily influence it.I also give them insights into people they know in subtle ways, especially people with negative energy. Of course they already know at some level but I think it helps them to be more aware.

S

karma
@karma
2 years ago
159 posts

Hi Kaolin

I dont think you have done any damage to your children, kids are not so clueless to emotions in their parents - talking it through and explaining why you reacted this way or that does give them a better understanding and, even brings you closer :) You removed yourself from the emotionally charged relationship they must be able to see the change in you since the separation?

Emotional outbursts are actually kind of healthy at times just to release the energy build up. with kids there needs to be a boundary though - A mistake I made a fair few times was to allow my daughter to be herself in expression - so long as there was good reason for the outburst took a few times to sink in during her teenage years lol....

A very notable trait for me with my daughter (now 22) is when she is ill, I cope fantastically tending to her but, as soon as she recovers, I feel instantly drained - I also feel surges of stress when she is stressed (her job is very demanding) - I feel this with my boyfriend too. - I have to tell myself that there was no stress or angst within me prior to the onset so I know it isnt mine :)

Just a question regarding the custody of your children on a week by week basis - does that mean they live with you one week, their dad the next?

karma
@karma
2 years ago
159 posts

That must be quite a toll on both the kids having to up and leave, settle, up and leave again (and for you) One minute a full house the next a silent one.

Is there no other means of a custody settlement? - It sounds as if the kids are finding it hard to adjust to the upheaval every week... I can imagine if you do not get along with their father then an altering of the arrangement may be a struggle? - My daughters father would have done anything just to be awkward if he thought I benefited in any way

Have you spoken to the kids regarding how they feel about the arrangement themselves?

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@snap
2 years ago
103 posts

So you don't think their father would discuss other possible arrangements with you? It's best to try to arrange things privately before going to courts, imho. I wouldn't presume it would be exceptionally difficult to change the agreement even in the courts if you can document some reasons. When you say 'working' so far, this likely just means nobody has claimed there are serious issues. If you can document factual events that indicate issues in a fair and balanced way, you can always revisit such things. The difficulty might be documenting it if there are no 'objective' facts evidencing the issues.

karma
@karma
2 years ago
159 posts

Hi Kaaolin

I think snap and I have proven the empath over thinks and tries to help a little too much at times

You are more than right, you did not post requesting any such suggestion on changing the custody situation, I arose with this and I am sorry for being so intrusive.

- The problem with this world today is we are bogged down by rules, laws and decisions of others and in this case it is indeed a way of working around them to lessen any stress

You are a loving and caring mother, that is what matters.

Sage is a very good home cleansing agent :)

I smudge every few months or so (or if I feel a need to).

I go through each room into the corners, under the beds, in cupboards etc - its another suggestion but, only as a means to release energy buildups - Puberty has many energies attached and it may help?

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@snap
2 years ago
103 posts

Hi Kaolin,

I was honestly a little unsure exactly what you were asking in your first post, but I'm interested in the topic. I certainly hope I wasn't intrusive.

For others, not so much for you, the courts most certainly do consider things such as intentional infliction of emotional distress and financial abuse arising from such things as undue influence. However, as both you (Kaolin) and I said, it's tough proving someone has caused emotional distress unless there are 'outrageous' behaviors that can be proven etc.

I wasn't suggesting how to change anything, just making observations regarding this after you stated it would be exceptionally difficult ... you may well be right, and if the observations were not welcome, my apologies.

Best, S

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@snap
2 years ago
103 posts

Kaolin, have you tried orgonite? I find it incredibly useful for dealing with negative energy. It's by no means a 'cure' for me but it seems to help clear and balance my own energy and assist me to deal with stuff. I tried it on myself before getting some for my daughter; now I like her to have it when she's at school. For emf if nothing else, but also for dealing with other negative energy.

Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
2 years ago
954 posts
I would just like to say...I wish my mother was like you...lol...your kids are lucky to have a mother who's in touch with self and understanding and willing to talk about stuff with her children,.. about the energy and teach them how to identify issues...know when to back away and let them decompress in their own way without judgement.. and teaching them how to deal with it in a positive manner.. ...that's all any child needs to become well rounded adults...teaching how to manage unhappy and scary issues is very important...and most parents never do that with their children...so I think your awesome!

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