All falls into place.. but now what?

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Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

I'm new to this site and love reading peoples stories. I've only just found out that there is a title for how I have been feeling all my life. Reading everything out there can but a bit over whelming. A vivid memory just came back to me from when I was a child while reading through things. I love animals with my every being, I remember we had a dog called Lady. One night mum went out to go across the road to the Dairy and dad let the dog out in the back yard. I was pleading with him not to let the dog out but who listens to a 8 year old child? 10 minuets later mum comes rushing back saying Lady has been killed on the road following her to the shop. She escaped through a hole in the fence that we did not know about. I was hysterical, yelling at dad saying I told you not to let her out. Cried all night. How did I know? Then I just felt awful about how I yelled at dad as I could feel his pain and that he felt so responsible. I thought I would share my story with people who understand. I'm only now getting to grips with it all.. but now what? I'll keep on reading but it's just confirming feelings.. where do I go now?


updated by @lifelike: 01/21/17 07:54:20AM
star love~pritha~ dancing love-
@star-lovepritha-dancing-love
last year
13 posts

Hi Lifelike,

Happy New Year to you. It is beautiful gift you have and feeling things deeply and strongly and being able to relate to others is because you are meant to help others in those situations and comfort them when you can. How or where you can use those gifts is for you to decide. What calls you. You can help animals, children, old people . Do you have a pet ? Having a pet helps too, someone you can connect with on the empathic level, as it will ground you and it will help you to utilise your gifts. You are here to enjoy your gifts and share the love, so you appreciate what you have more :) sometimes people use their gifts in grander way, but just being able to use it and be happy in it, give you enough space to grow more and take further steps. As I said use your gift in some way, and decide how you can use it, Whether you help your family, friends, someone in your neighborhood or people in need.

Bright blessings to you ~

Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

Happy new year to you to Star love. Thank you for taking the time to comment on my post. Such lovely words. I have always had animals, can't be without them. The only problem is when they pass, they are like people to me and it rips me apart. I see a caterpillar on the hot concrete of a footpath and have to pick it up and put it in the garden. Oh my fuzzies are everything to me. I feel sick to my stomach if I see any cruelty to animals and the image stays with me that I have to try and block out if it pops back into my head. Always helping people when I can. I always get people talking to me with their problems, people that I don't even know very well. I will help when I can. My husband and two boys (15 and 13) are also Empaths. My two adult step children and their mother are Narcissists, so I have tried to help my adult children with no luck, my husband and I just got chewed up and spat out. But now I have control of my mind with that situation I feel more open to the world. Help when I can is all I can do I suppose. Thank you again.. sending love your way.

certainmystery
@certainmystery
last year
5 posts
My plans are to either rule the world or just enjoy it now that I'm less confused. Ruling it sounds fun, but that's not my nature.My best friend smokey, the family dog, got put down when I was a lad. It is funny how connected I was to that dog. Never opened up to a pet again. I was kinda evil minded back then. Pretty sure I loved to feel people's fears. Think I was addicted to it. Anyway, I have never hurt anyone so I know I'm good hearted. The dog though, would just up and bite most people. I feel he did it for me and lost his life when the family got tired of it. That's not why I called.Isn't the realization good enough for now? I know for me, it was very relaxing to not wonder what my problem is. If I gain nothing else, sorting out the mystery is enough for me. Now it's fun to read and explore new ideas. I'd suggest soaking in some relief and take the future as it comes.
Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

Thanks .. relaxing sounds so good. Just take what comes I suppose and be happy that I know how to deal with it and that I'm not crazy.

That must of been hard for you to loose your dog like that. I can see why you have not opened up again, it really pulls at the heart. Our dog of 18 years just passed away last year, and I thought that I would not get anymore pets, it just hurts too much. .. but then we let our son bring home two rats from school. They are the cutest things.. I think of the saying.. "It is better to have loved and lost than to never of loved at all." I think the love of the animal out ways the hurt, as bad as it is. That's me personally anyway. Thanks for sharing, good hearted person. :)

certainmystery
@certainmystery
last year
5 posts

"It is better to have loved and lost than to never of loved at all."

Makes sense. I like it.

i felt like i was harsh in my reply. Thanks for not feeling the same. I had not thought about that dog in ages. The family got other dogs. exs usually leave their cat. Been missing out all these years as I've never opened up.

I know my reply did sound harsh. I cringe every time I read it. Life was pretty different way back then. The big people in my life were failing horribly.I had some mean in me. I was in 1st grade when we got dog. The big people would be mean to me and he always cheered me up when i was crying. Usually cheered me up when he bit someone. Most I felt deserved it. What a great friend.

18 years is a long time to share. Lots of great stories along the way. So it occurred to me that just talking out some issues here, with one or many, will help you as much as anything. Sometimes I will learn new things because I am researching a response. Not always what I want to hear.

So I offer my unwisedom if you ever shall need. I do caution I am not very wise; yet sometimes, its good to hear something you didn't expect to hear.

Gem
@gem
last year
220 posts
Hi lifelike, I'd say similar to the others which is to enjoy the feelings of everything making sense now. Don't feel the need to rush into a particular path just whatever comes naturally to you.I've made daily meditation part of my life because that felt right for me. It helps answers to come from a clearer/deeper place. Through that I've kind of found things that resonate strongly with me and am finding a path that feels good.On a side note I've also had a fair few narcissistic people in my life through the years..they seem drawn to people like us. We can't fix them all we can do is protect ourselves from them so they don't drain us so bad we can't help ourselves.. Nevermind those who we can make a difference to.Also I feel for you very much about your dog. I lost one of my cats (I have 2) in 2014 just 3 weeks before I got married..she was 14 but I lost her due to a neighbours dog having escaped their garden..she'd been sitting in the sun by my garden gate and he viciously attacked her. The vet couldn't do anything for her injuries so he put her to sleep while I held her paw and nuzzled her beautiful face. I felt like a part of me died too. I've released more grief for her since bringing meditation into my life and had the wonderful experience of cuddling her again during meditation.I know my soul will meet hers again. I'm sure yours will meet your beloved dogs again too :)BlessingsGem x
Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

Hi Gem,

Yes those Narcs sure give you an emotional beating. Well I'm truly prepared now though, not going to let that happen again. 20 years is enough for me. What to do now? Your right, sit back and relax and take what comes. This gift is for a reason I'm sure, so I will see what crosses my path and see who I can help and just enjoy this new feeling of freedom.

Oh Gem, your poor kitty and how traumatic that must of been for you and they way it happened. I have had to put down a few pets due to Cancer. Holding them as they die is ...found it hard to find the words, I can't think of the words that can explain that feeling, but I'm sure you know what I mean. They are apart of you and you will never forget them and I definitely believe we will see them again one day. I have had my cat from many years ago visit me in a dream. I'm hoping now with understanding what I am, I will be more open to it and stop fighting it at times.

Thank you for taking the time to answer me, much appreciated. Blessings to you to. x

Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

Your reply was fine.. I didn't find it harsh. Felt fine to me,

Well I look back at the person I was all those many years ago and it was someone else not me now. Look at how we have grown and changed. Many things along the way have helped us without us knowing. I'm glad you had your dog back then at that time. Pets sense our needs and are truly there for us ...no judging, unconditional love. I'm sorry to hear how you were treated when you were young also. NO ONE deserves it. Just understand this, the people who were like that to you, were themselves very unhappy within. Your not to feel sorry for them, but know it was not your fault and your reactions afterwards was just a release but your past that now and don't let it effect your now. It's hard opening your heart to others. Just look for the warning signs to protect yourself, if needed. Hey and another saying for you, since you liked the last one so much..

You have to go through some bad shit to appreciate the good shit. :)

Rene''
@rene
last year
1,194 posts
Hello Lifelike, you have carried your pain for so long about your dog. I'm so sorry. I, to, am a animal lover. I also lost a great and wise friend and I understand that pain. He has visited me a few times since he death but not in awhile. You will see you dog again. Maybe you already have and that's why it's still hurts. Maybe your like us, animal empaths.
Lifelike
@lifelike
last year
7 posts

Thanks Rene, Yes I love my animals. I have lost a few over the years, they are like people to me. I would be lost without them. I to believe we will see them again. Thanks for your words.

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