Work vs. Private life
updated by @andrea3: 03/13/17 06:51:08AM
I think maybe you are a HSP (highly sensitive person, it's an actual legitimate medical condition) and watching this might help you understand yourself and also help a partner be more compassionate/understanding.
Our societal world is so unbalanced and we are thrown into it, sometimes with little choice, however, that does not mean it is healthy and, I believe, your psyche is telling you that you need to honor the beat of your own drum. You have to be clear on what your own 'healthy' consists of, not what society screams at us is a successful normal. Relax and believe in yourself. What would make you happy?
I would also like to say that a partner should be a blessing, not an energy drain.
WoW! Thank you so much! Love her videos, I am going to buy also her HSP workbook etc.
It is very hard for me to know, what makes me happy. It is only now, that I am trying to figure out the real me. I have never been happy about anything for a long period of time. Also, I have many interests, but I am not passionate about them. Also, I do not have only one focus...if I had one, life would be easier. I am kind of in the middle always, not particulalrly happy about anything, nor sad. Maybe it is just a phase now, because the partner that I am with is pushing me out of my comfort zone, which is never easy, but on the other hand, my life never worked that way. I was always "guided" and never pushed on anything, because than it gets strangeled...
As you say, I need to relax, and believe in myself (wich is hard for me and I have to learn it.. my intuition is always right, but I never listen to it...) I do want to fit in, but at the same time absolutely do not want to, so I am kind of stuck in between and it only messes up my head..
Once again, thank you very much. Sorry for offloading my life's problems on you. It just that now I am in a dark place a little... :/
so helpful!!! I always thought I was "slow" or something was wrong with me, because I do not and cannot give definite responses straight away!
Trust issues are huuuge, but at the same time I am really naive, is it strange combination? I always see the good in the people, sometimes it is more buried, sometimes less and then I know, when they are lying, or affraid, or insecure etc. but you have to push that feeling away, because how are we supposed to live here, when noone is authentic and olny few admit their true feelings or intentions.
I always tell my partner, whatever you want to do do it, but please, never lie, it will be easier for both of us.. I am never mad, I understand everything, but I cannot be in a partnership where there is a lie of any sort... But hey? I even lie sometimes!! even if it is a white lie... So who am I to ask him not to lie... )
Anyway, I let myself go a little, sorry...:)))
Thank you for sharing!!! Happy new year to you too!!!