Looking for that connection in someone?

who_am_I
who_am_I
@who-am-i
3 years ago
27 posts

Anyone ever go through this?

I dont know if its because I am an emapth or what it is, but I have always had a hard time with the opposite sex.

I am 19 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I have flirted with some guys and had a fling or two but never anything serious.

Whenever I meet a guy, my "senses" automatically kick in and I "read" him. Somewhere inside me I know exactly what type of person he is. ( My skills are still very rough) I can do this with almost everyone. I call it reading someone because thats what it feels like, it feels like I am reading the persons soul. Its like I see beyond what they put out. Society shapes the outside, but I can see whats truly inside the person.

It goes a bit further with the guys I like. Whenever I meet a guy something inside me searches for this connection, I dont know what it is. But I know I will know when I have found it. It will feel right, and calming. Its hard to explain.

Everyone always says I am picky and I dont put myself out there thats why I dont have boyfriend and maybe they are right, but I cant help it. Its not like I want to be alone, its just that I cant force myself to be with someone that I know nothing will work out with.

Also, please dont confuse the connection that i am talking about with a soulmate connection, yes that is the ultimate goal, but I can feel that connection with guys that I know I wont end up with at the end but they are here in my life right now for a reason.

Has anyone ever gone through something like this or is going through it?


updated by @who-am-i: 01/24/17 10:37:06PM
TigerLily
TigerLily
@tigerlily
3 years ago
370 posts
I'm always told I'm judging a book by its cover. I get it. So I tested this the past few years, and people I didn't like upon meeting I gave them a chance and in the end saw what I didn't like. Those that I did like, I keep them as a friend. It feels like there are alot of "not nice" people out there right?
Alledius
Alledius
@alledius
3 years ago
21 posts

I wouldn't sweat it. You only 19 and many years ahead of you. You'll find the right guy, and it's a good idea to read them. No one wants to be in a stressful relationship. If anything, being able to read them is an asset. Just be patient, you'll find someone eventually.

who_am_I
who_am_I
@who-am-i
3 years ago
27 posts

Not exactly not nice, but just wrong for me. Its hard to explain.

who_am_I
who_am_I
@who-am-i
3 years ago
27 posts

Thank you:)

Bridget
Bridget
@bridget
3 years ago
5 posts
I have a hard time connecting with people in general. The few close friendships I have made are with other like-minded people. I find I see through people easily, instinctly know a person's true intentions, and well the majority of people are not so great. I'm told I'm not a good friend... I just prefer not to be around energy that will pollute my own. Save myself the stress. I already live with someone that pollutes it enough.Good luck!
who_am_I
who_am_I
@who-am-i
3 years ago
27 posts
Thank you Briget for your reply!I am the opposite. I put myself out there for everyone. I tend to listen to everyone's problems and try to help out. I compel fly understand why you try to keep away. I wish I had the strength to do the same. Sprinted I feel so overwhelmed by all the energy that I barely know what to do with myself.

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