I Want Everyone's Intuition On This

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Hi

My dad has begun to get really mean again. We have left before because of this and we are thinking we will have to leave again, this time permanently. We are going to hold out until we have money to get a physic reading from Amaya to see what she says. But in the meantime, I want everyone's intuition on this. Do you feel it will get better or worse if we stay?

He is so caught up in his own mind that he can't see the bigger picture of life. And is constantly passing the blame around to anyone but himself. When he gets angry he turns into someone I don't recognize, he is scary when he's mad. Says really bad stuff about us, his family members.

I really hope you guys feel something with your intuition on this. It has gotten to the point where I seriously refer him to being an emotional abuser. A bully.

love and light

Kaitlyn x


updated by @kaitlyn-brokaw: 09/04/18 02:00:28PM
Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Thank you,

Mom doesn't want to split us up, but there is so much more to living than this pain we deal with. It's hard to talk to someone who really understands, so thank you.

Funny you replied because I am actually writing you an email right now!

Kaitlyn x

Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
3 years ago
764 posts
Sadly, I have to agree with FG. He apparently doesn't see that he needs or wants any help. Sometimes the only way IS to hit rock bottom, and unfortunately sometimes that doesn't even help. But you and your family need not be sent to the whipping post yet again. I pray for you at this very difficult time. Hope all works out as it is supposed to.Shine on...
Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
3 years ago
966 posts
Hi...if leaving will help you then you should....you don't need to put up with abuse of any kind...your dad has a problem...and you can't fix it...only your dad can...things to think about.. when your dad starts to get mean...does something happen to trigger it?...and how long between episodes?...what i'm saying is that it might help if you studied the way it escelates in an impersonal way...he picks on you because he can't pick on the real reason...and people loose sight of many things when in pain...the anger is his way of decompressing. ..we all do it...when we can't confront the real problem...we lash out at people closest to us...it's not nice..and it hurts the family...and it sux...my point is that he has an issue he hasn't taken care of...probably many...another...what is he like after an episode...is he relaxes?.loving?..is he able to hug you?..has he always acted this way? When did it really start...your mom would know...are you able to talk to her about it?...arm your self with knowledge...when you know where the anger and nastiness is coming from...it takes away a lot of the fear...but by all means remove yourself from his presence ...but tell him why...that will give him something to think about...
Rene''
Rene''
@rene
3 years ago
1,195 posts
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Rene''
Rene''
@rene
3 years ago
1,195 posts
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Michellem
Michellem
@michellem
3 years ago
12 posts

hello Kaitlyn! i'm glad i saw this post. i'm so sorry you are going through this. i know how hard it is to not feel safe or be safe in your own home, i went through it my entire childhood and there were times when my mother and i had to pack up and go stay at her friends homes until she was finally able to get this person out. i can truly feel what you are going through and when i read the words "when he gets angry he turns into someone i don't recognize, he is scary when he's mad" my immediate intuitive hit was GET OUT!!! it is time for you and your mother to go somewhere safe. i'm not trying to be harsh or insult the psychic's abilities, but DO NOT WAIT FOR A PSYCHIC READING IF YOUR SAFETY IS AT RISK! leave, get the $ together and consult them after. i understand parents not wanting to split up a family and it's very possible your mother is feeling apprehensive about doing that, but your situation has progressed beyond that. truth is, i think you already know what you guys need to do...you have amazing abilities and can see alot that others can't. the fact that you are asking about this makes me feel like you already know but you may be holding out a bit by trying to get validation for leaving. i know it's hard, and you may not even know that you know what needs to be done. i suggest you sit down with one of your crystals (which ever one immediately resonates w/you when you look at them), hold it and connect with it energetically, even ask that it work with you. then i'd call on archangel michael and archangel raphael to be with you and ask for their guidance and be still...and see what you hear, feel, think, know....just let them guide you. i do promise that it is truly best for your mother and you to leave. but whatever you do please know i am praying for all of you and sending positive energy. if you want to feel free to message me any time. please stay safe my friend :)

with love and light, -michellem

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

This really touched me, cannot even describe that, thank you so very much. I am sending you love and light as you part from your family, surely that is never an easy task.

Thank you, love.

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

You hit it right on the bullet, Michelle. I do already know what we need to do, but very unsure of it.

I will definitely sit with my crystals, and contact the archangels. Thank you so very much. Your response made me tear up a little, thank you.

Much love to you, my friend.

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Thank you. This is completely true.

Much love and light. I appreciate your response a lot, FG.

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Thank you, much love to you xx

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Yes I totally agree. I talk to my mom about everything, but I always feel like I can't say how I really fee, you know? Like I will disappoint everyone with what I need and how I feel about things. From what I know, he's always been like this. Since my mom and him moved in together, he's always been angry. And part of that is because he had a bad childhood. Being angry is just so much more work than being happy. I don't understand why he continues when it is absolutely exhausting.

Much love to you, Karen.

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

My dad also came from an enviroment just like that. His mother is bipolar, and quite frankly, she is nuts. I think he gets a lot of his problems from her, they've not got along very well. His older brother used to beat him up all the time.

That't what he says too! You totally understand this.

Sending love to you,

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

I read it before it disappeared! I really liked your response too, darn computers.

Thank you, Rene, Much love

Kaitlyn x

Karen2
Karen2
@womanwhowalks
3 years ago
966 posts
Well...most of this is about you...not him...only you can make decisions about how YOU want your life to be like...he's already made his choices...and that's NOT about you...so leave him to it...pick yourself up and make a decision....stay or go...take out all the what ifs. ..all the drama...what do YOU want to do?...we can tell you what we think or what we'd do...but only you can make the decision...so...what do you want?
Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

That first paragraph, just yes. Walking on eggshells is now my specialty.

Thank you for your words, Gem. You are absolutely right.

I am returning those cyber hugs and light,

Much love, my friend,

Kaitlyn x

Bing
Bing
@bing
3 years ago
555 posts

321_discussions.png322_discussions.jpg323_discussions.jpg324_discussions.jpgHi Kaitlyn

Your dad needs to seek out counselling for his anger issues. He has a lot of bottled up anger from his own early years and this needs to be dealt with.However, only he can do this. Neither you nor you mom can get him past this by simply wishing it were different. He would have to totally change his relationship with his siblings and mother and make the choice to live free of them. I had to divorce myself from my siblings and other abusers from my early life. I also got counselling to help me see what had happened to me from my father's abuse was not my fault. Abusers are usually very fear filled people and feel that the world is against them. Victim's of this type of abuse, be it from family members, coworkers, or religious "leaders", can develop very strong feelings of inadequacy and this can then lead to substance abuse. It is never the fault of the victim. Yes, you may have to leave this situation behind you and it can be really scary at the beginning. But, it is also a chance to live a life free of waiting for the next explosion, be spiritually liberating and not allow you to be the victim of some future abuser. It took me quite a long time to get over the abuse that I suffered as I often felt that I didn't deserve to be successful or loved and it also affects your self esteem and self confidence. My advice is to see a counsellor be it at school or on a abuse hotline and get their opinions. They deal with this all of the time and can help you and your mom connect with the social help system that is out there including emergency shelter if it is needed. My father was both a psychological and physical abuser. We lived a life of fear for my entire youth until I left home. If your dad becomes physically abusive call the police immediately ! This will then start a file which can then be used as evidence to help you in the future.

The angels will help to protect you, but you must also listen to your guardian angel, that little voice inside of you, that is giving you solid insights as to how you should proceed. Listen to what it says and then act upon it. I also want you to know that we are here for you to chat with and will always help you when you talk with us. You can draw upon the collective wisdom of your fellow empaths who have lived through many hard situations and come out the other side and into the sunshine.You are not alone. Know that you are loved very much.

Throw some love into the wind.

Bing

Ruby Fox
Ruby Fox
@ruby-stone
3 years ago
70 posts

Giving in to a bully is giving them power over you, and it is important to own your own power. How old are you? The younger you are, and the younger you are during a trauma, whether its emotional or physical can affect you for the rest of your life. The most important thing to do is own your power, or take it back. I know that out of ashes you can become reborn-but to do that is work on yourself and get away from anything negative

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

Thank you, Justme.

I appreciate that.

Much love and light,

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

I already know he won't do counseling or anything like that. For now, I just need to keep giving him little nudges I think. Thank you.

I do know all of this, just need some confirmation, very doubtful in myself.

Love to you,

Kaitlyn x

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

You are absolutely right.

My dad, when he and my mom were dating, would do that as well when he was driving. She always says now that she should have known then and left, but then she says she wouldn't have had us, so she doesn't really regret it. Yeah, dad does like all of that as well.

Thank you, I appreciate this very much, Lindsey.

Much love,

Kaitlyn xx

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts
Thank you. Yeah it really does destroy families.Much love xxxx
Ruby Fox
Ruby Fox
@ruby-stone
3 years ago
70 posts

My mom would kill someone that abused her-Leo the roaring lion-but that's because her dad was too aggressive so she swore off agressive men all her life-and married someone passive ;-)

Ruby Fox
Ruby Fox
@ruby-stone
3 years ago
70 posts

I think I got that inside me too

Visitor
Visitor
@visitor
3 years ago
303 posts

My intuition (and experience) tell me that he won't change, except temporarily. He sounds like a classic abuser, and I know something about people in that category.

Chronic abusers never take blame for anything, or responsibility for their own problems. Their outbursts seem to be cyclical. Nice guy for a few weeks, then three months later he's built up so much rage that he starts taking it out on everyone in sight. Even if he doesn't hit, emotional violence can cause physical reactions, like ulcers, headaches, foggy thinking, depression, anxiety, etc. Whatever the cause is (it could be emotional or chemical), you and your family cannot grow and thrive in an atmosphere like that!!!!!!

If I were you I would leave. It won't be easy, but you can start to heal and move onward.

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