overwhelmed by negative emotions at work (aka help!)
updated by @bookworm: 02/26/17 08:08:22AM
Hi...that's a tuff one..it sounds like you haven't really gotten over this experience....it sounds like you were extremely hurt when they passed you over...it wasn't a nice thing...that's for sure...I've noticed when people say mean things or hurt another person...even if it's not meant...there's an actual disturbance in the energy field of the person getting hurt...the words actually land and leave a dark spot or bruise in your energy field...maybe it was the way they said it...those 'barbs' in your energy field should be removed...any psychic links to all individuals who said those things should also be removed...you have to remove the emotional stuff....management NEVER wants to hear about emotion....and admitting you've lost confidence to management...NOT good...they don't like hearing that at all...it turns them completely off...they want people who can take a hit and keep on ticking....it's like they expect us to shut down being human...lol...they really aren't worthy of you wasting your worry on them...go in...work and leave...plus...you may be picking up other co workers who aren't happy there too...so some of it may not even BE yours...square your shoulders raise your chin in determination and say...to yourself...lol...SCREW YOU...I can DO this job.....at least you can say to youself if it doesn't work out you gave it your best shot...inspite of the bs.....
Never let management see you sweat...most people don't know how to critisize without sounding mean....so...take the critisism...listen...then go home and let off steam...it sux...but at least you'll work it out in somewhat of a positive way....and they'll see your working on things....and stop crying at work....not good for your image....if you need to cry...go to the bathroom...wash your face and bring visine...be prepared...I work for a male orientated company....and I tell ya...it can be very tuff...that's one of the reasons I drive a bus...I don't have management hanging over my head watching...and why I work at night to stay off their radar and make it as difficult for them to call me up to see em if they want to see me about something...lol...
Another thing you can do cheer your work space up....steep some white sage, ceder, and sweetgrass in hot water...when cooled pour it into a spray bottle...I have a small one I carry with me...and spritz your chair...and around your desk....that will take care of some of the build up of negative energy...and make u feel better....when you run low just refil with water b4 you use up the last...negative emotions hang around a long time...they need to be cleansed..anyone who enters your space will also feel the effects and they will feel better too....in fact as you enter the building...just quickly spray around the door ...and do it every day when you arrive...and when you leave...it's only herbs in water...so no one should mind...people will walk through and feel better...you will find the atmosphere will lighten up...
So sorry to hear that you are going through this at work. Make a list of all the things you like do and treat yourself everyday to something that you like, even if its a bubble bath, a bar of chocolate your favourite TV and do things for yourself to help build your self confidence. Also, list the things that you can do and are good at and maybe you can think of another job you can apply to where you might be happier. Is it the job itself or just the environment? A negative and pressurized environment will get you down even though you may love the job itself.
Oh just seen that The Dreamer suggested some of the same things - great minds think alike.
Are you in to herbal essences? - I don't have enough knowledge but getting some that you can use to calm yourself either by putting some on a hanky and sniffing it now and again and spraying it around your area at work or on your clothes could also help. Lavender helps me. Also some yoga positions may help with stress and help balance you out a bit as well as walking,
Hope your situation changes for you soon, so sorry you feel this way
Where are you in the UK again?
I lived in Kensington (off Kensington Highstreet) when I was at college in London. I went to the Montessori Centre International that is opposite Selfridges (Balderton St) - so am used to London and how it can sometimes get you down because of the fast pace, people are too busy and often rude etc, but I did love the cultural aspects. When I was in the UK last, for 3 years, my daughter and I used to travel down to London regularly, as we like musicals and usually stayed at a Travelodge for a few days.
I am from Middlesbrough, which is near the coast and Yorkshire countryside and I miss that terribly here in the US and the freedom of being able to go places I like. So I do understand. When in London though I used to like to sit in a park or go to the library/museum to soak in some calm.