Hello Everyone, I just joined today and I'm so thankful that I found this forum!
I've always known that I had an intuitive or empath gift but I've never spent time learning to hone my skills. There was a time that it caused marital problems so I literally had to push any insights to the back of my mind. It's been within the last 4-5 years that the ability to tune people out is becoming impossible. I think the draining started after bringing my elderly mother to live with me. She can be quite cynical and downright insulting most of the time. Consequently most of my energy is spent fending her off emotionally. Also during this time I found myself in a whole new career in retail helping my husband's business. If anyone out here works or has worked in retail then you'll understand the diverse personalities that you encounter every day.
My real concern and what I'm hoping someone out here can show me is how to get rid of this negative energy that's attached itself to me, somehow? I've never come across this before. We are presently working with a couple whom initially I only spoke with the wife on this project. The very first conversation with this woman, I felt overwhelmed with emotional sickness. I made the mistake of laughing at one of her jokes which has turned into a nightmare of daily calls, drop in visits to our store. This woman literally attached herself to me and now considers me her long time personal friend. I've repeatedly explained to her that I don't have time to talk at work and have made every attempt to be respectful and kind as I'm sure there's a personality disorder involved here. However, last week, I lost patience with her after 3 calls within 20 minutes and flat out told her I hadn't the time to talk to her and promptly hung up the phone. Within 15 minutes, she was calling back and this time was completely hysterical crying that I didn't love her anymore and she cant' bear to live without me, she needs me in her life. I tried to calm her down and when she did calm down she told me she wouldn't hang up the phone until I told her I still loved her. WHAT????? I've never been anything more than business polite to this woman. I have no idea where any of that nonsense came from nor would I even attempt to try to diagnose what type of emotional disorder she might have that would allow her to believe there was more to this friendship other than business. Although, it wouldn't fall within the realm of disbelief to say that she's histrionic.
Since that call, I haven't been able to shake this awful feeling, it's depressing and quite honestly I feel emotionally violated. I don't like hurting people, especially someone that's emotionally unstable but I also want to claim my space. I feel like she's taken something from me and I won't get it back. It's almost as though her energy has attached itself to me and I can't peel it off. I certainly can't tune her out. Nothing I've done is working; I keep waking up with this same feeling of dread that stays with me all day long.
Does anyone know what this is and how I can remove this from me?
updated by @pd2012: 01/19/17 12:55:17PM