I've been newly single for 7 months. I've been online exploring various free dating websites. So many of them seem hokey. I've probably joined and then quickly quit at least a dozen of them.
Right now, I belong to 2 of them, that seem pretty pretty middle of the road. They are POF and okcupid. I like okcupid more, because you can answer over 1000 questions that can line you up with potential dates, based on the percentages of what you have in common.
The funny thing is - even with all of the screening, it is my opinion that most guys don't even look at that. I get the impression that guys still operate mostly on looks. I've had guys contact me that are up to 30 years my junior, and that I have nothing in common with - and, they're looking for a response.
Believe me, I'm not losing sleep over it...I can see the humor in it all and laugh if off (and block these guys from bothering me anymore).
I guess the surprising (and frustrating) part, is the guys who do answer lots of questions, who do post nice pictures of themselves, who seem like decent, family-men are not the ones who reach out to me. And, if I reach odut to them, there is no interest on their part.
Is anyone else in the same boat? Do you think it really matters at all or changes the outcome of meeting someone of quality on whether or not you pay for a membership versus a free one; whether or not you write a book about yourself versus just a few lines; whether you have one photo of yourself versus 20? I would love to hear what you've experienced!
In a perfect world, I'd love to join a dating website started that is strictly for Empaths! Does anyone know if Elaine Aron has such a thing planned for her website?
Thanks in advance for sharing your stories!
updated by @evolving: 09/01/18 07:22:45PM