Hi Gem! I smudge alot because I smudge all my crystals when they're new and periodically when I know they need to be cleansed energetically. Just like karma, I also smudge my home and the corners are really important because stagnant energy really likes to collect there. Now in case you don't know the next couple things I'm going to tell you about smudging I cannot stress how important they are. 1st ALWAYS OPEN A WINDOW WHEN YOU SMUDGE!!!! The negative energy you are releasing needs somewhere to go and you want that to be somewhere far away so out the window it must go!!!! 2nd when you smudge you want to cleanse and get rid of the negative energy first and bring in the positive energy after. You also should say some kind of blessing. When I do my house or my friends apartment I state the following repeatedly while I go through out every room: "I ask that all negativity and lower energies be cleansed from this space and that it be filed with divine love and divine light". When I smudge my crystals I say something similar: "I ask that all negativity and the lower energies be cleansed from this stone/crystal, that it be filled with divine love, work only in light and love and for the highest good of all". I'm just giving those as examples of how you can ask to release the negative and bring in the positive. When you're done you always want to say thank you (I always feel I'm thanking the universe, but you can call on angels and deities or whomever you'd like to help bless what you're smudging. And of course thank them when you're done). Now...i think we need to cover your Pyromania when you light sage some people wait a couple seconds for the flames to burn out but then some people wait a couple seconds to make sure the sage has begun to burn and then gently blow out the flame. Just do what resonates with you. Depending on how much sage I'm using sometimes the flames die down quickly and then sometimes the flames are really strong and then I blow them out. When it comes to putting the sage out so it stops smoking you'll read a ton of different things people do, but no matter how you do it YOU MUST ACTUALLY DO IT when you are done smudging part of the process is ending it by putting the sage out, however in this case it's the fire hazard it creates by continuing to let it smolder that we're most worried about always put it out when you're done. I do what is least recommended and that's running it under a little water to put it out. Dude, it's all good with me so it's simply all good but I do also tend to use a small amount of loose sage so it's pretty much all burned out unlike a smudge stick. You could always put it out in the same fashion people put out cigarettes. Some people put it out my smothering it in a bowl of sand....again, do what resonates with you and feels right. But most importantly don't burn your house down
I hear you. Laughter is nourishing to the soul. So Gem if you read this, I'll give you something to laugh at, even if you're laughing at me, as long as it puts a smile on your face I'll be happy to try and lift your spirits. I know how difficult depression is. But just have faith that not only are we on your side but so are the angels
With love and light -Michelle
Fancy Girl I didn't forget about you but do you know if Gem Will get notified that she was mentioned in a comment? I hope she sees this!
I'm very glad you are feeling better that's wonderful to hear just wanted to say that I've used an abolone shell before but it really heated up with the sage in it as opposed to holding it over the shell to catch ashes. I don't know if that's happened to you. But it got pretty hot which surprised me cuz so many people use them. Maybe mine was an imposter!!! Like it was a spy for the Shell's Of The Sea organization. I've heard they're nobody to mess with!!!!
Whoever is saying to let the sage burn itself out is probably selling sage bundles! The directions I follow involve using sea salt. If the bundle doesn't go out of its own accord once I stop blowing on it, and I've finished smudging, I gently butt it out in the seasalt that sits at the bottom of a heavy glass ashtray I use.
I would never leave the house with anything burning, especially something like sage bundles that can produce small embers...