Nothing attracts love like love - loving yourself, loving what you're doing, loving family and friends.I found a very dear romantic friend this way and suspect I could have been happy with them all my life. Even so, intuition buzzed at me the whole time that I shouldn't get too comfortable. It was irritating and I ignored it as well as I dared. Years later, an old friend I had also dated half a lifetime before looked me up for a visit. When I met them and touched their hand, it was almost like an electric shock, like time slowed down. I never wanted to be without them again. Only then did my buzzing intuition quiet. It still took me a long time to accept that, but sometimes your someone special is someone passed over the first time around. Clarifying what I sought also helped me recognize it.