Yes, yes and yes - lol! We humans will do whatever works. We have a system that is composed of several brain structures. They make up the Reward System. Drugs (alcohol is a drug - so is sugar) will hijack this system over time so that you begin to experience your need for the drug on a survival level. Have you ever been a smoker who couldn't smoke? You truly feel like you'll die without a cigarette - that's the reward system. This is the danger with drugs because it happens relatively quickly.
The reason you use alcohol is that it works. It does what you want it to do. The problem is that it promises a whole 'nother set of problems you don't need.
Working with addicts for many years, I can tell you that the answer is to stop using it (with help if you need it) and start identifying and solving the problems that are plaguing you. Do not. I repeat. Do not - beat yourself up for this. This is a human thing and you're a human. It's just a matter of dealing with it, right?
I can promise you that if you follow this simple plan (simple - not easy) put the alcohol down and get help if you need it to deal with the pain - it will work and it can be the best thing that ever happened to you.
All of us (100%) are wounded in our families of origin. This is to different degrees, of course. This is nobody's fault, really, it's the human condition. What I'm trying to say is that most of us have to "unlearn" coping skills we learned in the very specific arena of our early families. They worked then but often they don't work now only we don't know what else to do so we keep trying to use them.
We can unlearn these negative coping skills and learn new ones. Twelve step groups are great for this!
Much luck. Please know that you're not alone.
Word of caution. If you're drinking to the point of blacking out and/or get the shakes when you don't have alcohol, please know that these are signs that you may need help in becoming sober. Alcohol is a dangerous drug to detox from if you are physically addicted. Worse than heroin. Worse than coke. Please get help if you need it. Lots of people are out there to help.