Crownite
Crownite
@crownite
3 years ago
106 posts

Not really, no. But I'm comfortable with competition and I have met empaths who are competitive.

Reckless
Reckless
@reckless
3 years ago
123 posts
Very competitive. The thing is I'm not interested in winning. Only to see how I measure up against my opponent(s) when I'm at my best point. After that I lose interest.This can be anything from video games, to exercise, to sports.I do enjoy a great challenge, especially when I believe it is outside my limits or I'm greatly underestimated.
Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
3 years ago
780 posts
Very competitive, however, if I lose it isn't a big deal to me. I just like the challenge.
Cat Whisperer
Cat Whisperer
@cat-whisperer
3 years ago
780 posts
Would love a game, cannot find anyone that wants to play ;)
Dice
Dice
@dice
3 years ago
285 posts

I cannot say I enjoy competition as much as it pushes me to be better at what I do. There is healthy competition and otherwise. I also find myself trying to comfort and encourage those who may be hung up on winning to a point it makes them feel like they are not good enough if they don't. Drives me crazy when parents make their kids feel that they are not good enough if they don't win. It is more about challenging yourself to push past where you were yesterday. It's not whether you win or loose.. but how you play the game. I like to learn and have fun more than anything.

Kit Kat
Kit Kat
@kit-kat
3 years ago
232 posts

[So I've had two failed attempts at sending this reply, hopefully this time it will finally work!!! lol]

I am competitive, as you can probably tell from what I just wrote (I couldn't let my computer win!), but like you, I don't always like to win, especially if I'm competing against someone else. I tend to feel bad for them, and then I feel guilty, which makes winning feel like a negative thing.

So I've fought really hard against my competitiveness, especially since I have a twin sister, and I feel bad whenever something goes better for me than for her. I always sort of hope that if something has to go wrong for one of us, that it will go wrong for me, as terrible as that sounds...

Anyway, it's interesting that not all empaths are competitive. And this is only a theory, but I think the main reason is that some of us are "sensation seekers" and some are "non-sensation seekers." A sensation seeker loves to feel the heightened emotions of life (examples could be adrenaline, love, or winning), and a non-sensation seeker likes a more easygoing, low-key kind of life.

I'm a sensation seeker, but like most of you, I'm also a highly sensitive person, which means I tend to have "one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake." In other words, while I love the thrill of winning, being highly sensitive leads me to have mixed emotions about it when others are involved.

And others are usually involved, even when I'm working alone. Like for example, in my high school art classes, people would compliment my work, and they actually said "I hate you!" (joking around)... I could feel their jealousy, but I also felt some true anger from them, all joking aside.

So I've learned that comparing is bound to happen in life, unless I keep all of my work hidden away, which is a sad thought.

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