First up, there are those who have major life changing experiences with spirit; however, spirit works with us at every moment and tends to be quiet, so you can't judge your experiences with another person's. I read lots of accounts and I think, I would like to have that - but I don't. It doesn't mean I'm not in contact with spirit, it's just not as technicolor as other people's.
The thing that pops out at me, is your comment that you can't meditate. However, this is the door that opens up the conversation with spirit. What we are simply doing is shifting our brain waves. Let me give you an example that happens to all of us. Say you can't find something - a piece of paper or your keys. So you turn the house upside down and you're just focused on finding the lost item. Finally, you give up and go do something that requires little thought - take a shower, rake leaves, go for a walk and suddenly - the thought pops in your head, "they're in the car" or you can see in your mind where the item is.
What happens is when we quiet the left brain that's continually chatting; our intuitive side opens up, that's the side that connects with guides and angels. That's why meditation is important. But it's not necessarily about trying to meditate for hours and have some deep spiritual encounter. Meditation is simply moving the brain waves from beta (our everyday thought process) to alpha which is a more relaxed state. It's the state before you go to sleep, it's receptive and not focused on anything specific.
So meditation can be a quiet walk, or just listening to relaxing music; anything to move you into the alpha state.
To your other question; when you ask for information or help from your guides or angels, you may get the information coming in by that receptive alpha state "where something pops into your head" or you may receive information in other ways. Some of us use oracle cards or the pendulum to open up that intuitive side. Then there is the communication that goes on all around us. People complain that they never get "signs' from spirit and yet, signs are all around. A passing comment heard on the street or something said on tv, or a book that falls off the shelf right in front of you. It's about learning to be open to receiving information.
Trust is built up by experience. Whatever information you receive, remember that it is always for the highest good and is never threatening or frightening. Sometimes people think that they have messages from spirit but they are fearful messages or to boost the person's ego - this isn't the guides or angels. The information is always calm and loving.
updated by @pat-starbridge: 12/24/17 11:43:45PM