Dear wonderful people of this forum,
I stumbled over this forum while googling for things that could help my partner. She is an extreme empath and suffers quite tremendously from it and the repercussion its has on her mind. I will try to paint a picture for you and see what you have to say. We met roughly half a year ago online. We fell in love. We are planning a future together because we feel like soulmates. I am not an empath, I am an emphatic person who can pick up vibes and emotions more like other, but I dont have to LIVE them in the extreme way she has to. Not even close. I am just what idiots would call "normal". Whatever that is. She opened up to me gradually because she has been burned and hurt oh so many times. Especially by good old mom who is just the worst person, abusing her mentally where- and whenever she can.
It started with her telling me about the "bad feelings" she sometimes gets when she knows something is about to happen. Like she told me one morning she had one of those feelings and I should be careful only to later tell me her biological daughter living with her brother (a story for another time) got hit by a car and broke her arm. She is fine btw. But this really gave me the chills and I am already open for those things, those connections.
Added to being extremely susceptible to other peoples feelings there is a level of connectedness to other peoples minds and spirits that is getting strange and for me unknown and dangerously sounding. She lives in the US, just graduated an Ivy League School with a full ride but she has old world roots. Half portugues, half greek, with Alabanian roots. Her nonna, grandmother, is also a wise woman, still living in Albania and trying to help her with what is going on right now.as a girl she grew up here and there. portugal, greece and for a horrible while in kosovo in the nineties, when the US would bomb the country and serbian troops committed unspeakable atrocities. Nonna was the only one she could talk to about this.she told me she had a little imaginary friend in kosovo she played with, a lovely little girl. one day she came to her grandmother and the grandmother said she could actually see and feel the girl. they went to a neighboring city and the grandmother pointed to a woman on a market. said that woman had lost her little girl a couple of years before. my gf felt a tug on her hand and never saw her friend again. over the year this ability grew weaker and eventually disappeared.
seven months ago a horrible thing happened to my girlfriend and i think the trauma brought all back, like some thick shell broke open and her "gift" came out again, stronger than ever. the emotions of other people are like an open book to her. she told me about a customer she had and that she could feel that she had a miscarriage, she could tell me the exact day it happened.
on top of it, spirits now find and cling to her. she was super reluctant to tell me this, naturally, fearing I could think she is mentally ill. but I dont. all your stories and different accounts and my love to her make me believe so strongly in what she is saying.
she lives in a old building and tells me about a family she hears in her head. mom, dad, two girls. she can hear giggles. but it all changes when he is around. he is abusive and malicious. whispers to my girlfriend. there was actually an incident when we writing on Skype and she was being weird. not really reacting to what i said. wishing me a nice evening. and I kept on asking what was up. and she told me "the man doesn't want me to talk to you" i have goosebumps while writing this. and then she had to leave the apartment and she was normal again.
but it got a worse
i am in contact with her roommate. together we try to make her feel better, care for her and be together with her. she is a depressed person and in intensive therapy. but in 90% of the time a cheerful and wonderful woman that I love more than I ever loved someone.
she told that some nights ago she heard her outside the bedroom. standing on the top of the stairs of the basement (where she told me the girls would hide when the abusive father was there. she heard her say: it is going to be alright, dont be scared. her roommate is irish catholic, rosary grabbing and the whole deal. she told my girlfriend: come to bed. and my girlfriend would tell her, in an unusually deep and growly and menacing voice: No. she sent her boyfriend to look after her and my girlfriend would walk past him on the stairs without taking notice of him. i told her that and she was frightened to death, had no recollection of that. ...
she needs help. and not in the sense of a doctor. she is getting treatment for her depression, attends therapy and willing to work to get better. but the whole thing with feelings peoples emotions and having the voices of spirits in her mind is just too much for her.
I know, I have rambled. But I still hope some of you will read this and tell me their opinion on what they think is going on and how she could proceed and what I could do. there is so much more details to this story that is too much to go into, but I hope I could paint a picture. Please know I love her and I will stick with her, always believe her and not let anything happen to her. I just am an analytical mind and want to know what can be done. It is overwhelming for her so I thought I just go and do some research. are there people she could talk to who maybe experience the same thing? what do they do to protect themselves?
A loving and believing boyfriend.
updated by @marcel: 03/29/17 10:50:33PM