It is absolutely ok to not feel totally ok with those people, and to feel betrayed because you felt like you shared something special, only to find out that these people wanted to take as much as possible and set limitations for giving. I am trying to work through a relationship like this in my life right now with another empath who I thought was my friend, and treated me like absolute garbage!!!!!
She was actually the one who recommended a book to me called, "The 4 Agreements", by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the 4 agreements discussed in this book is, "Don't Take Anything Personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering".
This agreement makes so much sense and is so true, but I still have not completely internalized it yet-I wanted to pass it on to you as food for thought:)
I am trying to grow from this, but I still take everything personally, too What it can do for you and me, though, is help us to have an aha moment where we can pause, take a step back, take a breath, and remember that a lot of people are so deeply immersed in the personal Hells that they have created for themselves, where they are only out for themselves and don't really care how they affect others. If they view you as someone who can do something for them, they will do something for you. If not, they will take what they can and move on.
Not everyone is like this, but the types of people that tend to hurt us (you, me, other empaths) tend to lead this kind of existence and are black holes that tend to try to suck us in.
I don't think that you need to try to blend in like everyone else. I think that you should be true to yourself but should just learn and grow from this experience.
I don't find you the least bit petty or weird. I find you to be a beautiful, sensitive empath:)