updated by @reckless: 12/28/17 06:17:54PM
My personal perspective:
1) Don't "look" without permission
2) If you do "look" without permission, don't tell
3) Stand up for who you are but ...
4) Don't confuse people who don't understand
5) Recognize that there are people out there who come off as varying shades of weird/crazy. Avoid adding one more to their numbers.
6) Recognize that balancing 3 4 and 5 is a challenge!