How do you deal with feeling sad for situations you can't control?
updated by @emmy-long: 07/19/17 04:43:32PM
I may not be of much help, since I have the same problem and look forward to reading the advice you get.
For me, the ASPCA ads are a big problem too. If I watch, I cry, so I change the channel immediately and remind myself that they are a poorly run charity, with way too much spent on 6 figure administrative salaries and not enough on the animals. If it's been awhile, I take out the checkbook and make out a check, no matter how small, and I'm on disability, so it isn't going to be big, to our local No Kill shelter, run on a shoestring by mostly volunteers, and a director with a reasonable salary. That makes me feel better.
My church is love offering only and would never make people feel bad about not putting money in the deep bag they use, not a plate, precisely so nobody can see what you put in. I remind myself the person did not have to go to such a materialistic church. This will not help unless I also distract myself. A short dance aerobics routine where I sing along to happy music helps.
I can't read our local news home page because there is always something on it about someone abusing an animal or animals, and it makes my stomach lurch. Recently, some monsters masquerading as humans shot their pit bull because she lost an illegal fight and tied her to train tracks. She was saved, thank God ,and recovered. That one still haunts me though. Hate to admit it, but I could shoot the people who did that and go out to lunch afterwards. I hope you get a brilliant answer from someone that will help both of us.....
with loads of empathy on this subject,
I would not even have gone to the Marley and Me movie in the first place, since I'd seen a trailer and knew what was coming. I've gotten up and left friends and even dates in movies when I was younger. They thought I was strange for sure, but I always thought they were the strange ones for not being affected like I believed they should be if truly human. There are a couple of movies I wish I'd never seen because surprise scenes are etched in my brain for all time and not in a good way.
I am not sure why your dad didn't take the dog to the Vet himself, but please don't beat up on yourself now. I'm sure you would take the dog to the Vet as soon as you knew....what more could anyone do?
I await the expert whom I am affirming will show up soon to give us great wisdom in this!
Are you sure you want to change it? The beauty of you is that you can connect, even when the rest of the world forget's. I read that article and we need these people just as they need us because they remind of to have love and compassion for other's and they inspire us to act. It's what makes us human. We need pain and sadness because it gives us purpose, it gives us passion. It moves the depths the soul and reminds us to care for another. These things move you and that is a beautiful thing. But with it comes a responsibility to yourself by understanding that they are living their purpose, they keep the balance of light and dark. They are hero's in disguise. When they win, we are inspired, when they lose, we are inspired. His "meaningless" life has touched millions of people in a way they would have not otherwise been touched. It has been touched by some and lifechanging for other's. And now, how many other people are going to be provided with food and shelter because many of these inspired people have decided to fight for them or open more food kitchen's. One person's selfless act inspires alot of people who do have the means to also be selfless.
We can't save them all, but each of us has a purpose and that purpose is often revealed from moments such as these
How do you deal with it? You feel it, you allow it touch your heart and you keep sending them the energy you send them. If you feel drawn to do more, then do more. But you must decide on how you want to contribute and focus your attention on one or two things. You can't save them all, and your not meant to save the world alone, and you must accept that, because that is what keeps us humble
I hope this helps;)
Oh this made me laugh, I'm the idiot who aged 20 took her pre-teen niece and nephews to see teenage mutant ninja turtles and was the only fool in the cinema who cried at it. I cried a bucket at Marley and me, the book.
Only the other night I went out of the room during Gogglebox because I didn't want to go through the ordeal of watching the Bear Grylls bit.
You're not alone lol.
On a more serious note 'compassion' has it's root in com (with)+passion (to suffer), and when we willingly suffer with other people/animals it genuinely helps them. So while it's worth avoiding upsetting fiction and TV shows/films we can do nothing about, far better to stay soft of heart when it's real.
That's so sweet! I'm glad Willie had someone to cuddle him. Screw the rommates! They are the ones with the problem of compassion deficit, not you.
We dropped $1,700 on an MRI for one of our dogs to see if we could save her spine. We told almost nobody, because some relatives of my spouse (whom I despise for obvious reasons) said they couldn't believe we'd spend that much on a mere dog. These same people blow wads on useless material junk they don't need. I should mention that I am on disability and don't get much, since I've been very sick for a very long time, and my husband's business took a huge hit in 2008 plus that wiped out a lifetime of savings. However, the way I see it, not helping is not even an option and animals are members of the family.
I've found a dog in the road on two occasions when people just honked at them and drove around instead of helping. In one case I paid $145 to have our Vet put the dog down, as he was too injured to live, and I bawled my eyes out while I prayed over him. I was crying not for the dog, who went home to a better place, but for the soulless people who left him there in the road, and for myself, since this only added to my dislike of most of the human race. In the second case, the dog had a tag and I was able to get the owner to come and get the dog, but I am sure it had to be put down as well, from the looks of it. The owner had forgotten and left the gate open and being totally untrained like so many dogs these days (don't get me started on that!), he got out and ran into the street and got hit.
Totally with you on this. Hugs,
What a great story about the squirrel and cat.
We had one cat who fell in love with our rabbit and would spend hours outdoors with her in her cage cuddled up with her. This same cat kissed a citrus rat once when it got into the rabbit's cage. I could not believe what I was seeing!
Maybe when they are well fed enough, the lion really will lie down with the lamb.