Conny
Conny
@conny
3 years ago
28 posts

Hy Alison

It makes perfect sense to me.

I experience the absolut same thing.

I feel the more I am around people, the more I kinda get away from my own Attitudes.

It's like I take their way of seeing live, of judgements and I don't know how and why but most of the time it takes me quite some time to figure out that what I am thinking of life right now isn't actually my way of seeing live.

After beeing in a group of negativ and shallow people , I go home and suddenly have thoughts and feelings about things in my live that really put me down... a few days later I suddenly realize that this is not me.

Do you recognize it streight away? Or does it take you some time as well?

How do you react to this then? Is it easy for you to change you way of thinking back to your own way?

Cause I find it really hard some time...


updated by @conny: 12/24/17 04:07:37PM
The Importance of Being Jonny
The Importance of Being Jonny
@the-importance-of-being-jonny
3 years ago
794 posts

I had a most embarrassing social anxiety attack on Saturday at a Passover seder. I was sitting among a whole bunch of younger college students I didn't know and the rabbi asked each of us to read from the haggadah and as soon as it was my turn, I was so nervous. I read shakily and I know people wondered what was up with me. The time came again for me to read and although I was a little bit more confident, I still was nervous and read shakily. I hate that I am a slave to anxiety and energy. I felt like a wreck, not to mention, I had a shooting pain in my right armpit that extended way down to my middle fingertip. I didn't know what was happening or why I felt that way, but I was glad to get outta there. I felt so embarrassed.

Gin S
Gin S
@gin-s
3 years ago
225 posts

I have had too many experiences like this but I wouldn't be able to read in that situation. I just burst into tears like a 3yo and can't do anything but try to escape. It is so horribly embarassing.

Gin S
Gin S
@gin-s
3 years ago
225 posts

A lot of people in my family treated me like I wasn't right and needed to be fixed. I couldn't be shy and I was a hypochronriac (sp?) because I could feel other peoples injuries and illness. My mom did not realize that with at least half of those people I didn't even know they were hurt or sick so I wasn't even doing it subconciously or out of sympathy. My grandma still brings up how I cried through my whole first time being on stage with an audience. It was rubbed in and I was pushed to be a social butterfly which is just not me. Well maybe it could have been me if I hadn't had so much stress and pressure to be that way. My childhood most likely could have been what caused my social anxiety. I was not given any confidence or support.

Gin S
Gin S
@gin-s
3 years ago
225 posts

No the pressure is still there from everyone to get out and socialize in big groups or people getting upset because we don't visit often. At this point I just don't go out much. People can take the time to understand me or not. My husband knows me and I know me. I have quite a rich inner life and finally have support. He is very supportive in all the craziness I find here and where it leads me :) I am growing and getting stronger these days, just not in the socializing area. I prefer to socialize online because then I don't read so much from people as I do in their presence. It is overwhelming to feel everyone's emotions in a group then be able to read their faces and put it with their words. I take in way too much information with my senses.

Dice
Dice
@dice
3 years ago
284 posts

I tended to seek out people that were seen as different. I personally opted to blend.. go unseen. The less people noticed me the better. People have always tried to guide me and tell me what I need to do. People would at the same time like they could not figure me out.

As I had children I noticed people trying to tell me how my children need to be toughened up according to the standard normal. I have always had a place where kids can be who they are. The world is hard enough without those closest to you judging you and blaming themselves because you just aren't right.

You tend to shy away from large groups as I do. I frankly have different interests than most and see the world differently than many around me. I have to feel good about something and at the same time challenge my own boundaries to make positive change around me. Many think I can be bull headed and stuck up. If people knew me they would know that is far from truth.

You have been a good friend to me for quite some time and to be honest.. all of your past made you strong. It might not be fair.. but I am glad you are who you are. You work to be who you want instead of bending to the will of others. You are truly a blessing in my life!! Had you grown up feeling normal.. we may not have ever met. Thanks for being you Gin!!

Gin S
Gin S
@gin-s
3 years ago
225 posts

I love you too <3

Kithor
Kithor
@kithor
3 years ago
17 posts

I know that I occasionally have the problem of mutating a read into an interpretation that what I'm reading is directed toward me, especially with attitudes and judgments. But, a lot of times it is just feeling those attitudes and judgments against whoever that I find uncomfortable and simply don't want to be around it. It is these and other chaotic people that I have a particularly sensitive radar for that distracts me from enjoying time in public places because of internal triggers that I have in place for it. Some of it is because of my past as it sounds like it is in your case, but I know shutting off that radar in public isn't the answer, at least personally. It is my identity. I just need to learn to live with it better and reduce the anxiety one day at a time.

Perception is everything. I keep a drawn Necker cube on the wall of my office to remind myself that the way we perceive the world isn't necessarily as the world truly is. We perceive it, and how we perceive it can shape and diminish the chaos in our lives. The reality is that it isn't a cube facing one direction or the other. It is just a bunch of lines on a piece of paper...

Nea
Nea
@nea
3 years ago
210 posts

The way I experience it, when we are ungrounded and unshielded in a group of people, we're like a leaf in the wind, it feels like having no control, like there are no ground beneath our feet. I have realized I get bombarded by other people's anxieties, emotions etc. It literally feels like there are no room for 'me' and that I am about to disappear. Just like you, I am a reasonably confident person when I am grounded - but when I am overwhelmed and/or feel like I have no control or don't know what am expected of me, when I don't know the rules, that's when I 'freeze', like I am trying to make myself invisible.

There's a way that we feel what others are feeling that might not even be about us - it's about them - but we feel it so intensely it's hard to remember they don't really mean anything. If we get a room full of that, it's hard not to be anxious. :P

Breathing and bubble-shielding works well for me. But it does take practice - sometimes I just am not aware, it's a bad habit I am trying to work through.

Kaitlyn Brokaw
Kaitlyn Brokaw
@kaitlyn-brokaw
3 years ago
216 posts

I too, am in the same boat. Always have been, and I think I always will be. :(

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