Does anyone ever see you for you?
updated by @emmy-long: 10/24/17 12:29:57PM
We all "should" but that term and free will don't necessarily go together. I heard a recent talk that discussed this issue. What was said is that a person who acts in the manner similar to the people around you, has not opened up to the light of their own soul. And the underlying motive for these actions is that they are looking for someone to pardon them, which is why these situations are created and you are the catalyst in their evolution. We can help others grow into their own consciousness by asking the universe to pardon them and allow them to be set free.
This does not mean that we continue to allow people to treat us unfairly, we pardon them and recognize that their actions have nothing to do with us. We also have to recognize that we do not live in a fair world however, we can strive to create a balance in all our relationships. We are slowly coming out of the old mentality of "you vs. me". For some, that means that it's all about "them" and for others it's about sacrificing for the other. Neither method works because it's not balance. When we approach relationships from a "we" mentality, we are looking for solutions and actions that help all. Your light, your needs, your wants are just as important as anyone else's. You are to be loved and respected and that often begins with placing the same value on your needs as you do for another.
it's difficult to hit the balance but it is necessary for our growth and others. Recently, a friend had a similar situation of helping someone who took advantage of this friend's kindness and generosity. This friend works in the spiritual/healing community and Spirit finally said "no more help" because the person wasn't interested in getting better, he wanted to stay in the mode of "needing help". We do the best we can, but there are times when we must let people go not only for our good but for their's too.
Yes many of us here at the EC have gone through much of what you are and have experienced. You came here at this time, just like the rest of us, to bring more Light, Life and Love into this world. You area Lightworker. Many of us have often been told, " You're too sensitive", "You're not 'normal' ", You're not from around here". LOL
Guess what ? They are right. We are not from around here and would like to "Go Home" to where we know that LOVE flows like the sunshine on our faces and is in the very air that we breathe. This is a very backward little planet with a very dense frequency. It is the hardest place to come to in the universe. We came here to help people see the oneness of all life and we lead by our example. You may not be able to do great things, but we can do small things with great LOVE.
I suggest that you go to this link
and download the PDF version of The Three Waves of Volunteers and The New Earth by Dolores Cannon. It will help you to understand why we are different from the majority of people who actually believe that this is the only existence that there is. They are not connected to the Oneness as we are. They don't FEEL and are sensory deprived. I am also including a direct link to the Alan Watts section of my YouTube channel 1111Angels. Here you will find many talks givenby this very enlightened and spiritually advanced Lightworker. Most of what he says will be already known to you, but put together in a manner that will have you saying AHA, Yes that is the correct order.
Just know that you should take care of, and respect,yourself and not overextend your energies as you will be no good to others or yourself if you are burned out. Thank you for sharing this topic. It is something that we all need to see from time to time to remember that we are not alone and that there are others like us here in this world at this tumultuous time. I work with angels and told by the Archangel Chamuel to "BE THE LIGHT". Here is what I was inspired to write.
Be The Light
Be the Light in all that you think
Be the Light in all that you say
Be the Light in all that you do
Be the Light and shine the way.
Throw some love into the wind.
The older I get, the more my face matches my personality! (I'm in my mid-fifties.) When I was young I looked so innocentand pretty and sweet, and people got me wrong ALL the time and treated me like a child or some kind of joke. I was in a constant state of rage because of the labels people stuck on me. I think people look at me now and see more of what's really there- kindness but also caution and a healthy dose of distrust.
Karma is real and it comes around, trust me on that. Sometimes it takes several years. But who you are and what you do eventually manifest themselves in the way you look and present yourself.Being an empath means you know more than most people, to the point of feeling like an alien. Just remember that many of us feel that exact same way and thank goodness for forums like this one!
Bing, people DO line up to help their fellow man. It just doesn't make headlines. The Haiti earthquake was a good example. People from many countries, various religions, all traveled there to help, or sent money or goods. I had to do a lot of research to find this out, since U.S. papers talked only about the "wonderful, generous USA", but I consider it a good example of what real people are really like, all over the place.
I have been working on "purging" the negativity recently. I find that I cannot change others, but I can change my surroundings and whether to keep them in it or not. I always (try lol) to stay true to who I am; I don't hold back my empathism, I don't have any issue showing my love nor my fight when threatened, and I am very open and honest about everything -very communicative. I put my best self out there and see what is reciprocated.
Sometimes it works out great! I have one very new friend for example (male, I am female) who, one day when I was very upset about my interaction with another, told me he totally understood why I was upset: because that was just me, to care and love everyone and never draw judgement against good people -he said that's why so many people like me (which I didn't know My relationship with people like this friend is stronger because I give 100% of my self to them and they get to really know the core of me. My friend knows I am empathic, and to have him console me--in such a new relationship--with that in mind made my soul just sing!
Conversely, when someone "screws me over" I give them the benefit of the doubt (usually twice, two shots only): I express to them exactly how I feel and see how they react. They either have to convince me they are sorry, are understanding, or can show me with I was wrong by articulating their perspective -otherwise, I'm done. When I say done, I mean that quite literally: I block (not unfriend, block) on FB, delete phone numbers (or move them in my phone to a different area until I am ready to delete), move photos to a new folder hidden on my laptop; I completely cut that person and their hate or negativity totally out of my life (because ain't nobody got time for that crap!).
Then I take the situation to a current friend. I explain what happened, why I was upset, and we reflect on it. This helps build a closer friendship with this friend and strengthens my choice to move forward without the "bad person" in my life. I think validation from our friends helps with the grieving process because we don't second-guess everything then.
I think there are lots of people "like us" who don't identify as empath but hold the same "good person" core-values. I believe that every time I let a bad one fall out that I am making room for a new good one to move in. The best way to find good ones is to show you, well, are a good one
I don't believe I owe anyone anything. Anything (period). However, I would give the world to numerous people who deserve it. <3 I hope my rambling helps in some way.
Nope girl, imo you had it right before the epiphany. Some people believe they are entitled because of x, y, and z. In my book, no one is more entitled than the next person -everyone deserves the best possible and everyone needs to work hard for it. A person who deserves it and receives help from you will be thankful and repay you in kindness, repayment, gifts, words... a person who takes advantage of you will come back to the vending machine of Emmy to see what else comes out.
Don't waste your energy hurting for others who don't hurt for themselves -again, just my-very strong -opinion!
There are many people who would welcome your help with love, prayer, kindness, hugs, tears, gifts, repayment (and paying if forward!) or whatever else they have; these are the people I hurt for because in their hurt they are trying but not succeeding.
For me., I grew up without anyone understanding me, at 18 a man jogged by my friends house, we went to his home where he and two room mates lived, and I thought this man is too cute to be real. He asked us if we wanted to listen to some music. Being who I am, I said the name of a band that had just released an album the day prior to this day. He said, "I just got it yesterday". For 31 years we have been best friends..lllllI prayed for someone to understand me, and he jogged past me one day.
Until now, that was always enough, but life and distance gives me less and less time with him, and I feel lost, with that hopeless feeling that no one understands me, and I am surrounded by people that take advantage of my kind and generous nature, and so negative.
This too shall pass, what I am getting at is, that I think it is hard to understand ourselves with so many emotions inundating us constantly. Somehow by the time I am done with everyone else's feelings, it makes it so difficult to understand how I feel. If I do not understand myself, how can others.
I am grateful for this community, I am excited to read fellow Empath's stories, comments and replies in hopes that together we can find a way to live the best lives we can, the lives we were meant to live, joyous and filled with love,. instead of so much hurt, pain and suffering.
I pray we all find what it is we are searching for, in that, perhaps we can grow and help others like us suffer less and prosper more.
Peace be with you all.