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boubou
@boubou
3 years ago
159 posts

Hello everyone!I would like some insight on some things I have been experiencing.

I have had a bad relationship with someone for a couple of years on and off mostly because I thought I was in love with him but this wasnt the case...It was his obsession I felt and at the time I didnt know about empaths and that I was one...long story short the point is I felt this person a lot especially when things started to go bad...I could sense him when we were close, at the same club, restaurant or even when he passed through my home late at night...when I found out about empaths and learnt a lot from this site I was able to cut the cord and be free

after that I became close with a friend that went through a break up too and that had a crush on me since we started being friends (a well controlled crash).This person was to me like an energy cleanser, not from the ex but from everything. I would only talk to him for a while and felt like I had been meditating and cleansing and grounding for a day. Now we are not so good because our previous friendship and this new situation and some other stuff caused misunderstandings but we might be on the path of solving them.

I have however some questions and I am trying to find answers...

I cannot sense him like my ex...he could be in the same location and I dont feel it. And its not like we havent spent time together, we have spent more time than with the previous guy (who is a very damaged person by the way..may be even a sociopath). Well maybe with my ex I sensed the danger....

Why is it so hard to read him also??Could he be an empath? I only receive this extremely calming energy

Secondly, am I in love with him or with his energy?or is it the same??

Thank you for "listening"


updated by @boubou: 03/04/17 02:43:41PM
Pat-Starbridge
@pat-starbridge
3 years ago
437 posts

Often when we are relationships where the partner has many issues, we feel their energy more because they are "pulling" on our energy. They need us to feel better. With this other person, it seems that he doesn't want anything from you. We get so use to the feeling of people needing energy from us that we forget what it feels like to be around someone who doesn't. People who need nothing from us will disconnect after being with us. They are self contained. That doesn't mean he doesn't like being with you - just that he isn't draining your energy.

As to your other question whether you are in love with him, or his energy, I think the question is whether you are in love with that feel good energy or in love with the entire package. Basically, we fall in love with people that make us feel good about our self. I guess I would turn the question around and ask, would you still be in love with him on those days that you don't feel that energy. Everybody has off days. You know if it's the real thing when they are having one really bad day and are mad at the world - and you still love them.

boubou
@boubou
3 years ago
159 posts

you are so right...every relationship I had was with people needing me to save them from something that I now have confused love with this constant neediness and I feel like if he isnt obsessed he doesnt feel anything...weird but now that I get it I will overpass it

boubou
@boubou
3 years ago
159 posts

thank you Wendy!

boubou
@boubou
3 years ago
159 posts

you are good!

boubou
@boubou
3 years ago
159 posts

well I havent thought like that but I guess I have a hunger that need feed.... :)

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