Empathy: You Don't Have to Suffer

By Scott Yates, 2017-01-09


All my life I have dealt with the positive and negative aspects of being an empath.  My family encouraged it and believed me when I told them what I saw and felt.  This made the learning process a little bearable.  Along the way, I have learned a few things that I'd like to share.  It's my hope and my prayer that at least some of this blog will help someone else.

I have comprised a 4 part series of what I've learned and how to make life as an empath bearable.  This may not work for everyone.  What I do know for sure is that everyone that I have helped has benefited from from this.  Hope you enjoy.

What is Empathy?........It's More:

If I was to ask the question, "What is empathy?", the answer that I would get would be "it's feeling the emotions of others.".  Although this is true, it's a lot more than that.  

It's a deep level connection with all living things.  A way to understand them and bring joy to their lives.  A vast warning system against those who want to do you or someone else harm. You are the peacekeeper of emotions.  

As many have already found out, many other abilities come with being empathic.  Clairvoyance, clairaudience, telepathy, and healing to name a few of the most common.  To those with emotions running rapped, these other abilities will cause more stress and anxiety to one's life. Resulting in the person despising their gift and referring to it as a curse.  I know there's not much training out there to help one co-exist with their gift, but this site is a good place to start.

Social Suppression and Self Suppression:

We are all born with the empathic ability.  It's nothing special given to a chosen few to bring light and love to this cruel and dying world.  We all have it.  Only difference is, it has been suppressed from a young age.  When a child starts showing evidence of this gift, the parents and schools suppress it because being different isn't socially acceptable.  Having a working ability makes you different and society is afraid of what they don't understand.  You hear statements like "science doesn't support that" or  "there's no logic in it" or "you better not let anyone know about this.  They'll want to experiment on you"  They will pull the "never make friends" card all in an attempt to make you feel bad for being different resulting in suppression.  Yet, there are those like me who are hard-headed and just don't care what others think that remain active and learn. Many don't realize their ability until later on in years.  By then, they are struggling with what they have been taught and what has just awakened within them.  To be honest, it drives them crazy trying to deal with it.  A lot of them turn to drugs and alcohol to suppress the swirl of emotion that they are feeling.

I have a friend that I've known for 20+ years and recently found out that she is empathic and dreams dreams.  She smokes pot to suppress her dreams because she can't stand knowing whats to come.  Claims it's always bad things that happen.

My late wife was ADHD and had severe anxiety most of her life.  After I introduced her to the idea of being empathic, she realized that her anxiety wasn't hers.  She experimented with not taking her medication and separating her emotions from those of others and had great success. She never took another anxiety pill all the way up to her death. (THIS IS NOT A DIAGNOSIS AND IN NO WAY AM I ENCOURAGING YOU TO STOP ANY MEDICATION).

These are two examples of self and social suppression.  

Can't Be Controlled.....Co-Exist:

You can't control something that you don't fully understand.  You can't control something as unpredictable as every emotion coming at you all at once.  It's impossible.  Therefore, you must co-exist with your empathy.  Learn to live and function together to enrich your life as well as others.  It's like losing a close loved one.  At first your devastated, but over time you learn to live with the loss.  I've heard people say that they have gained a small level of've learned a way to co-exist with a small portion of your ability.  

To control something, implies that you are it's master.  No one has ever mastered empathy.  It changes all the time and takes on different forms and situations.  There's not enough years in a lifetime to master them all.  

To co-exist with something, implies that you live with it.  It's a part of your life.  The trick is to find that happy medium where you and empathy work together as one.  When one stops struggling, peace can be obtained.

I'll Take That Filtered Please:

Over the years, I have tried shielding and grounding to just cut down on the emotions that flooded my body.  Let me tell you, for me, they didn't work.  Shielding started cutting it out all together.  Suppressing my ability.  I definitely didn't want that.  Grounding was just non-existent for me.  I never could grasp the concept and apply it.  But, filtering has been a blessing.  Took a while to become comfortable with envisioning myself being surrounded by a reusable coffee filter, but now it's second nature.  

The filter concept is to filter the negative emotions from the positive ones.  Like coffee grounds and water.  There's a flaw to this concept.  Everything must be in balance.  Even though your filtering, some negative emotion is going to get through, so when this happens don't think that your not doing it right and give up.  It's going to happen.  The good thing is, is that it's nowhere as intense as without the filter.  

Empathy responds well to filtering.  It's not suppressed, not running wild, yet comes and goes as needed without struggle.  You have to filter continually to make it second nature.  After a while, you'll filter without realizing that your doing it.  Being filtered allows you to concentrate on who needs your help and keeps your mind calm enough to know how to help.  

Part 2 will be ready and posted soon

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A Message from the Universe?

By Kevin P, 2017-01-02
A Message from the Universe?

For the past few months it seems every time I look at a clock I see numbers like 1:11, 2:22, 3:33, 4:44, 5:55 11:11, 12:12, etc. Does this have some significant meaning?  Is anyone familiar with numerology?

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Need Help Understanding

By jaijai3122, 2016-12-13

I need help understanding what is going on with me. I am experiencing a lot of weird things lately.

I feel other people emotions

I can't go to the zoo because I upset the animals

I blow out light bulbs

and  a lot more.....I would like to know what is going on.

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The True Identity

By Soothsayer4, 2016-12-09

Ok.  I dont blog really but I thought this as important. What is our true name? Our identity? In a world of which we dont belong how much do we limit ourselves? If I limit myself because I dont want to be in another's being then does that limit my full potential as an empath? How much more can I do if I accept another's energy as m own without losing myself? Am I being selfish or just too damned polite? Maybe I am limiting myself by pure humanitarianistic principles. Do these principles appy to Empaths when we have the c#apacity to commune with others in synergenic ways others cant even comprehend. when is it considered taking avantage of them or shoud it matter? What trueley is the Empath code of ethics?Do we have one? Should we have one? What is our ultimate mission by God?

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Temple Of The Soul Intro-Part 1

By MysticAngel22, 2016-12-06

Temple of the Soul - Intro- Part 1

    What is the soul? The soul is our Akashic records. It is the storage area that contains all of who we are, our thoughts, our emotions, even our memories from lifetime to lifetime are kept hidden here. It holds information on all the lessons we have learned in the past, where we are in the present and who we will become in the future. Anything you ever wanted to know about yourself, you will find in the soul. Sounds exciting, doesn't it? When you begin to walk down the path of understanding, you also begin to walk the path of the unknown. For many who are seeking a deeper understanding of self, this is an exciting time.

   We often begin the journey feeling courageous and even a bit invincible. Even though we don't know what lye's ahead, we are driven by the knowledge that what we will find will be life changing. It's this type of "knowing" that pushes us to take our first few steps without any other knowledge of the journey. We don't know why, how or what is expected of us, nor do we care because we know the end result will be well worth any costs associated with this journey. There are many reasons why we begin the journey. For me, it was fighting my fears of the shadows that haunted me and trying to understand why they were haunting me to begin with. At the end of the journey, I realized that it had little to do with understanding and more about battling the fear and rejection that came with it. Knowledge was merely a tool that allowed me to come to terms with it and accept this aspect of myself. I wasn't fighting the ghosts, I was fighting the fears I had of them. I was fighting the rejection that came from those that rejected my gifts. But most of all, I was battling the God that cursed me with this gift to begin with. This journey started at a very young age. I didn't know at the time what I was seeking,nor did I understand the depths I would have to reach in order to find whatever I was looking for,  I just knew I had to continue down the path.

   This path has been traveled for many, many years. It  wasn't a straight path. This path had many twists and turns. It contained a labyrinth of dead ends and  empty rooms. Some areas contained light and endless possibilities. Other places were dark, cold and straight up terrifying. This was the cost for traveling down this path, the path of the unknown and unexpected.

   The Soul is much like Indiana Jones and Temple of Doom. The soul is the temple of Doom, not knowing what lurks behind each corner and what is hidden in each room. The seeker is the heroin who braves the unknown in search for the hidden treasure and who will risk everything for it. Some rooms contain traps and skeletons, while others contain beautiful golden nuggets. As we begin the journey into this Temple of Doom, we enter in with several agreements with ourselves. Whether we realize it or not, we are bound to these terms during our journey. Now that doesn't sound fair, does it? But it does, because in the end, you will realize that you already knew the terms before you began the journey.

So, what are these terms? The terms will vary however, the most basic terms are these.

1- When you begin the journey, you agree that you will find what you are seeking, even if you do not know what it is in the beginning of the journey. You are guaranteed this treasure no matter what, if you are willing to find it.

2- On this journey, nothing is as expected. Sometimes we follow the path right to the treasure, but more often then not, we must sift through several layers of dirt  and enter into many rooms in order to find it. This is essential for the smaller treasures we find lead us to what we are seeking.

3- We agree to be completely honest with ourselves. Without this honesty, we will never find what we are seeking. Since this is a solitary journey, the only one we have to be honest with is ourselves. Not an easy task for honesty requires to see all aspects of ourselves, including the sides we refuse to admit we have. We are required to see everything as it is, not what we want it to be.

4- We are required to accept the truths shown to us, for it's this truth that allows us to fully see who we really are. This enables us to accept all aspects of ourselves, change what we don't like and allows us to evolve into the person we have chosen to become.

   By accepting these terms, we are truely ready for this journey.

   So, when does this journey begin? It can begin anytime, there is no age or time frame. We begin this journey when we have a strong desire to gain more information or understanding on a certain aspect our ourselves. Though many consider this journey to be spiritual in nature, it's really more about deeper understanding. Some would call this a time of "enlightenment" but it is more about understanding. On a bigger scale it is about understanding what makes us tick, but is often triggered by a nagging question that we really need an answer to. Some questions may be "why do I do this all the time?" or "how come this keeps happening to me?". It could be something more complex like "Is there really a God? Why do bad things happen to good people?" or "why was it time for my mother to leave the earth?" This journey allows us to go inward to find a deeper meaning to the questions we have. It helps us understand by giving us perspectives that are tailored made for ourselves. Because the soul is a storage unit for who we are, we not only get understanding, but that understanding comes from understanding our own perspectives as well as those that we look to for higher guidance.

   Though the knowledge kept in this giant storage unit is our own truths, truths are subjective that can and often change as our understanding and perceptions change. What may have been truth to you ten years ago, you may discover you don't feel or see the same now. The temple is ever changing because you are constantly changing. This is what we call the evolution of the soul. The evolution of the soul is merely a process of growing and changing, maturing into who we choose to be. This process never ends because there is simply to much to learn. Our desire for knowledge is an eternal quest. The things we desire now, may be different later on. Sometimes, it's not about understanding the basic knowledge but the desire to see how far it will really go. This is often the case when a soul desire to learn and understand "unconditional love." Journey's such as these are often loaded with the things we don't expect because when we desire that type of depth of love, we often focus more on the end result, but rarely take into account of what is required to get to that point. Because there are so many apsects of love, this journey would focus on one or two aspects first. It will also show you other aspects of love the more "negative side" such as pain, anger, and situation that may require forgiveness or justice. There are many steps and stages a soul must travel to in order to reach the "treasure" which is the ability to have unconditional love or what you understand to be unconditional love. These bigger desires cannot be done in one life time because of the extent of it,however, these bigger desires to learn a specific thing is often seen through our life themes.

   What are life themes? Life themes are the things we are here to grow and expand on. It is mostly rooted by a deeper desire to learn specific lessons. For example, I knew from a young age I was here for two reasons. The first reason was to find the other half of my soul. I took this to believe that this was my twin flame. (Looking hindsihgt, I realize that my twin flame was only a part of that desire!) The second reason was for a very specific reason, but not sure what!. I knew it had to do with teaching or showing something, but also increasing my own knowledge of something. That's all I had to go with. So in my 30's I began to look for certain things that seemed to be consistent in my life. That consistency was spirituality, ghosts, psychic experiences,things that seemed unnatural or supernatural and magic. Part of that also included things such as God and my beliefs in a higher power. The other theme in my life was romantic love but moreso, finding "the one". I knew he was out there somewhere, but didn't know who or where. What I also discovered was not only finding the one, but understanding how deep it would go and understanding what makes it so great to begin with. Between the basic knowing and discovering the basics coupled with the ideas of what I expected to experience and didn't, is what pushed me to seek more answers deeper within.

   We often seek outside forces to settle the questions within,however, this often leaves us even more confused, for the most part because even though these sources give a general idea, it doesn't cover the individual experience. It doesn't take into account the depth of your own feelings, thoughts or ideas, so though we do have some "aha moments" and feeling a connection, it makes us go deeper to understand how this knowledge applies to us on a more intimate level. It's alright to look into outside experiences in order to gain direction, generate ideas, invoke emotions or inspiring a yearning towards specific areas, for the desire alone helps us connect to this information, but the journey of the soul is figuring out what it means to you, if anything and expanding or changing it to fit you. Between the two sources, inward and outward, we are able to see our life themes better and help take us to a deeper level of understanding on these life themes, the things we desire to learn while on this planet. 

   The Bigger Picture? We often have a need to be a part of something bigger then ourselves so we often seek to higher powers to guide us and tell us why we are here and what we are supposed to do. I think we are often afraid to make that decision by ourselves because we feel inferior and are afraid we may screw it up, or even miss our purpose altogether! This is really about understanding the bigger picture and how we fit into it as individuals. The Bigger picture is really about the earth and it's inhabitants as a whole. We often look at this as working together and working towards a place of unity, understanding,peace and love. It's viewed at evolving humanity as a whole to a place of higher enlightenment and unity. But is this really true? We may never know. What I do know is that certain things are in place in order to give us as much room as possible to allow ourselves to grow, but still having something greater in charge of certain aspects of these decisions.

   Fate vs. Destiny - Destiny are the choices we make and are the things that are in our control. Fate is the bigger picture of things that we can't control such as our timing for life and death. We know this to be true becuase we are often baffled when a loved one dies and we start asking why one is allowed to live while another is destined to die? This is especially true for small children. The reasons behind fate are usually done with a higher reason for everyone involved. Whether understand or are willing to accpet the reasons or not, death alone effects every person on the planet and is a part of life. Without death, we never really learn to live. It invokes things in us as individuals and as a whole that we would never be able to experience without it. These lessons and situations helps us evolve and grow as a whole. Fate works more for the whole where as destiny is more our own choices that allow us to learn and grow as individuals.

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Living in constant Deja-vu...

By who_am_I, 2016-12-05

I dont remember when it started, it was that long ago. At first I didnt pay any attention to it, blew it off as normal deja-vu. But recently it became more and more frequent. 

What would you do if you felt like you were reliving your life or that you knew something was going to happen but you didnt remember it till it actually happened? 

Thats my life. 

I live in constant deja vu. After something happens, it can be the littlest thing, a picture someone posted and I would remember that I saw it before in my dreams. It feels like I am reliving my life. And the worst part is, I cant fix my mistakes because I only remember after it happens. 

Anyone ever experience anything like this before? 

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Are you ready for a change in your life?  Are you ready to let go of the old baggage that we carry around from our past?  Are you ready to live the life that you were born to live?

At best, emotions will flow through us in the same way that they flow through healthy children (who can have a temper tantrum one minute and be all smiles the next). When we grow older, these emotions get stuck in our physiology and color our whole outlook on life causing us to feel stuck in outdated patterns of behavior and thought.  Clearing those stuck emotions can help us feel lighter, happier, in more harmony with other people around us and general remove the obstacles that interfere with living the life we were born to live.  

Emotion Clearing sessions use a list of emotions to determine which of those are stuck for you and need clearing.  I will share what is specific for you.  I also determine the original owner of the emotions being clearing.  Many of us are living with stuck emotions inherited from our biological parents and our parent’s parents back through the bloodline generations.  We have a chance to break that pattern and to stop it being passed down any further.  So I identify each emotion as being your own or else inherited and, if inherited, from which parental side it was inherited.

When we are young and get hurt, we have a limited ability to defend ourselves, so we create a wall around our heart to avoid getting hurt the same way again.  Each time we get hurt the wall gets a little thicker and a little higher but walls work both ways.  They help to keep the hurt out, but they also keep out the love from other people and hold in our own love and stop it from being fully expressed.  Not everyone has a heart wall, and not everyone who has a heart wall is ready to have it cleared.  For some people, it is appropriate to keep their heart wall until they are strong enough internally, and maybe change their environment, so that the protection the heart wall provides is not needed.  I will do the work that is right for you.

The next questions I ask are about whether your current state is consistent with being healthy, happy and prosperous.  Someone may subconsciously decide at a very young age that being sickly is a useful strategy to get love and affection. Decades later, with that decision still in place, they may be confused in their conscious mind as to why there is nothing they can do to live a strong, vibrant, healthy life.  Similarly with happiness and prosperity.   Until the unconscious theme is cleared the self-sabotage will override the conscious desire for a better life.  Clearing these three are important foundation blocks for establishing the new you!

Your relationship with God, yourself and with other people are the next areas that I clear. Up to this stage, the work backward looking, clearing past emotions trapped in the physical body and taking out what should not have been in your environment.  The second half of this work, below, is primarily forward-looking - centered on installing new strategies for future behaviors that support a healthy and balanced life, adding in what was missing.  This section introduces a unique structure that combines four decades of my work in this arena. I use a considerable number of other modalities beyond the basic emotion clearing that is the foundation of my work.  These may include archetype energies, affirmations, flower essences, and any other way that I can tap into universal energy on your behalf. 

What I clear are emotions stuck in the body, in other words, there is a physiological component to these emotions.  I can clear the emotional body in a matter of minutes; it takes the physical body much longer to process the change.  During the first two to three days after your clearing, you may experience old thoughts come up that are unrelated to your current activities.  If you start thinking "Where did that thought come from?  I haven't thought about that in years!" that is a clear indication of old patterns releasing from your body.  Just be aware that you are letting go of old baggage and don't attach inappropriate importance to what comes up during the release.

For a few people, one clearing is enough to return them to a state of feeling happy and at peace.  For many the first clearing only uncovers another layer underneath.  It is important not to clear too much too quickly as the release process can be overwhelming at times.  For this reason, there are always limits to how much I will clear during the initial clearing.  Some people chose to continue being cleared at a later time.  I will usually leave at least two weeks between sessions.  If you wish to discuss your clearing in further detail please follow-up with me.

Legal disclaimer: Emotion Clearing sessions are NOT a substitute for medical care and should NOT be regarded as such.  Please refer to a licensed health care provider for any state of mind or body that is impacting your well-being.

Lastly, it is my privilege and honor to be a vehicle for this impactful work.  My life has been changed by being a recipient of this work and I am truly grateful for the many people with whom I have been able to share this knowledge.  It does take courage to acknowledge the old baggage that we need to drop but truly worth it on the other side.  Thank you for allowing me to be of service. 


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Shaking sensations

By Dawn Jones, 2016-12-01
Sometimes when I lie down to rest, or start to meditate or just clear my mind, I feel an odd sensation. With my eyes closed, I feel like I'm being shaken up/down, then side to side, then front/back. I can physically feel my eyes making these movements, too. This has happened ever since I can remember, but not every time. Does anyone else experience this? Does anyone have an explanation as to what it is? Thank you ♡


By Dawn Jones, 2016-12-01
So I recently learned that some of my dreams that I can't explain are meant to be a message to the person in my dream. In these dreams, I have uncharacteristic actions and words, and often feel like I'm not me.

I mention one of these dreams to someone involved, and it made sense to them. The message is something they needed to hear.
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