By patty a saint, 2017-11-20
Most woman can roll their eyes, laugh it off and accept it as men being men.
Unfortunately, I feel the situation as it's happening then feel the guilt and feel his nervous worry about what he's done. This makes my suspicion go to overload and I ask too many questions.
I'm thinking that relationships can't happen for me.
Does anyone else have this problem?
By Trevor Lewis, 2017-10-01
Ho'oponopono – The Hawaiian Art of Forgiveness
- Breakthrough old regrets.
- Breakthrough emotional patterns triggered by the people and circumstances in your life that you sometimes wish weren’t.
- Breakthrough using this deceptively simple and easy process for creating new opportunities.
- Create the space for new strategies, new possibilities and divine inspiration.
Introduction and Background – About Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len
Sat Jul 22, 2006: HO'OPONOPONO By Joe Vitale
“Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
“When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
“However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood “total responsibility” to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does–but that's wrong.
“The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.
Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
“Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
“'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe. 'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'
“This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'
“'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life –is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
“Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like–is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
“I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho'oponopono means loving yourself.
“If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.
“I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
“'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.
“Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.
“Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.
“This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
“Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
“I later attended a ho'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.”
We are responsible for manifesting everything in our lives. That’s the bad news. The good news is that because we are responsible for manifesting everything in our lives it’s easy to create change. I am not responsible for the pain and suffering in your life until you share it with me. At that moment I have manifested it in my life and I am responsible. (Here’s an easy path – dump all your pain and suffering on the nearest enlightened master and let go. It’s now all their responsibility and, as an enlightened master, they can deal with it! Only two tricky steps, the first is finding the enlightened master and the second is truly, 100% letting go.).
And, it’s not necessary to accept this idea of being responsible for ho'oponopono to work.
Trevor’s wording of ho'oponopono:
I’m sorry (for having created whatever it is that is disturbing me, you, the world)
Please forgive me (for having created it)
Thank you (for forgiving me)
I love you (I love you, me, God for being in my world… love is good!)
There are various alternative forms including the shortest form which is simply “I love you”. Find what works for you.
What has it done for me?
Created a whole new space for creativity. Created a space where I am about to increase my income tenfold. Improved my relationships with my family. Before I started using ho'oponopono I couldn’t have envisaged being able to cope my mother emigrating from England to live near me. Particularly, it has improved my own self-acceptance.
Dr. Len talks about ho'oponopono as a cleansing technique. It cleans the system. For me it has become an anchor … feel some discomfort, some agitation … immediately practice ho'oponopono … feel better.
Ho'oponopono and others:
Forgive the people that do me wrong
Forgive the people that are out to get me.
Forgive the people that are complete morons.
Forgive the people that are just taking up space on my planet (which is, as my creation, the center of my universe. How dare they take up my space in my universe).
It makes driving down the road a whole new meditative experience.
Using ho'oponopono avoids being sucked into the other person’s energy. It avoids being “hooked” by their “stuff”. It avoids the emotional trap.
Exercise: What do you want to forgive other people for?
What/who gets you hooked? Salesmen? Politicians? Telemarketers? Road rage?
You may have difficulty wanting to forgive somebody for something big. That’s fine! Let it be. Pick something small. You don’t have to walk into a gym and pick up the biggest weights in the room. Start with something small. We are building up a whole new set of muscles that you are not used to using.
You may have difficulty asking for forgiveness from other people. Are you worthy of being forgiven? Can you ask forgiveness from God, if not from others?
Politicians are wonderful practice material for ho'oponopono. By practicing on our political leaders you get to clear yourself, the politicians and through you and them, you are cleansing the whole country.
Eyes open or closed? My take on this is that if the thought comes up with your eyes open, practice ho'oponopono with your eyes open – it only takes three seconds! If you are lying in bed with your eyes closed and the irritation comes in, let it go by practicing ho'oponopono with your eyes closed.
And if, at this stage, you still have doubts about this mumbo jumbo and me and my strange accent … please practice ho'oponopono on me! You can say to yourself … “I’m sorry for bringing this weirdo into my day. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.”
Who am I saying this to? The other person, myself, God? The answer is “Yes!”
Ho'oponopono and self
Forgiving oneself for having created the situation. Letting go of past regrets. For me this was the biggie! I tend to live in head and get caught up in my thoughts so that once I start beating myself up it used to be an closed loop of beating myself up, beating myself up for beating myself and “what was again that I was beating myself up for?”. Ho'oponopono works great as a pattern interrupt.
Exercise: Want do you want to forgive yourself for?
What have you done in the past that you wish you hadn’t? What health challenges do you have that you wish you didn’t?
If the concept of forgiving yourself doesn’t work for you, try disassociating. In a disassociated state, seeing yourself in the situation as another person, you can forgive that younger version of yourself as a separate person from you in the same way as you forgive others.
Ho'oponopono and God:
And if the concept of God doesn’t work for you fill in the blank. I’m taking about The Divine, a Higher Power, The Universe, Your Higher Self etc. Whatever works for you.
One way of thinking about ho'oponopono and God is that, because we are not separate from God, there is nothing to forgive. The original sin maybe the sin of thinking of ourselves as something separate from God. Our experiences of life in this world around us is all an illusion. No more than we need to forgive anything that happens in a dream, all this is an illusion.
And much as I personally have an intellectual concept of “everything is an illusion”, I’m still human. I have to admit that on a day-to-day basis I don’t have a strong connection with “It’s all an illusion”. When I stub my toe it still hurts!
For those of us that still see ourselves as being separate from God, it may be important to ask for forgiveness from God. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.”
Sharing ho'oponopono - Keeping Rapport
Ho'oponopono is first and foremost a personal technique. When someone is annoying you, the only place to go to is, internally, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.” Cleanse yourself first for creating them in your life before even thinking about correcting them.
That said, once you start noticing the changes for yourself, you will want to share the technique with your friends and family (and isn’t your family a perfect practice ground for ho'oponopono). Keep rapport!
My own mother dismissed ho'oponopono on the grounds of “been there, done that”. She was very much into blessings and thought nothing of standing in public places with her hand on somebody’s head to bless them. However, in conversation she could be very negative about people and events round her. To keep rapport and still introduce her to ho'oponopono, I started to interrupt her with “Bless them” every time she talked negatively about someone (after, of course, saying “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank You. I love You.” in my own head first). For her “Bless them” worked much better.
Practice, practice, practice.
Have fun with this. Use it. On some days, I am probably using ho'oponopono many times a day – especially on those occasions when I catch myself in the middle of an internal mental argument with myself about someone in my life trying to prove to myself why I’m right and they’re wrong. Use it as a mantra. Share your life with it. Share your home with it. In fact while you’re at it, take a shower with it, drive your car with it, watch the news with it. Use it all the time.
Your life will be different!
Ref: "Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More" by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len
By Indigo Dog, 2017-08-18
You are not Too sensitive. The reason you feel intensly over something is because you have the power and ability to do something about it. Your internal guidance is triggering a discomfort. I'm not talking about being upset or angry and freaking out, but when you just 'know' something isn't right with your spirit.
Those who say to you "You are just Too sensitive," don't have the power to see the solution and make inspired action to change.
1. Calm your mind.
2. Ask your guides/ angels/ divine energy for wisdom over the situation.
3. Sit with the answer in a state of gratitude, appreciation and blessing.
4. Then, and only then, take action.
By Corey Easton, 2017-07-23
What we never take fully appreciate in life is the stillness and perfection of the present moment. We always hear that “you should live in the moment”. But how exactly do we but this into practice and what are the benefits of living in the moment? To put this into practice we need to understand the value that living in the moment can give us. To live in the moment, you need to be fully immersed in this exact moment. Not what you did 10 minutes ago, about the Frappuccino you are going to be getting at Starbucks shortly. Or even thinking about you how much a dick your boss is. You see because when you think about the past you are giving you power to the past and not to the present moment. It is the same idea when giving your power to the future or giving your power to negative thoughts. Living in the moment is not an easy task because it takes 100% concentration. Your value of the present moment needs to be greater than anything else going on in your life. Or else your mind will wander.
So why should we live in the present moment. First of all its brings your awareness to the beauty of the world and how special each moment in life is. There is no point in time that is going to be the same as that exact moment. Each moment is unique. There is no better time to create your future then in the moment, you can consciously choose that you want to change your life for the better. When you are giving your power to negative thoughts, guilt from the past, your fears, or worries about the future you are manifesting those same feelings into your future. Also, you do not have enough power to create the future that you have always wanted because you are constantly giving this “power” away. Many of us have cycles in life of the same instance occurring over and over again and we never understand why, by living in the moment it will bring awareness and self-reflection to what is going on in our lives and can help us understand how we are to grow and learn from the past to break out of a repetitive cycle. So have a good look at nature today and look for the beauty in every moment
By Indigo Dog, 2017-07-15
To feel safe and filter out any negative energies or intrusive astral visitations when I sleep I set up an energetic filter of sorts. This is represented by a quartz chrystal in each corner of my room. This may seem odd but a while back I was having dreams about my Ex. Eeew. I didn't want him in my life and definately not bugging me in my dreams. I was also being threatened by a vengeful narcissist who was actively trying to hurt me through computer attacks and, what he called, black magic. I didn't care for that either. I saged ( used a sage smudge to cleanse and clear) my computer and my room. ( I left one window opened a crack to let the negativity drift out and be dissolved.) I also "charged" the crystals by leaving them in the moonlight and setting the intention that all negativity sent my way would be transmuted into wanted things and wealth for me.
This energetic and crystal barrier worked amazingly well. Any negativity or harm directed at me simply became fuel for things I would like and I was able to sleep peacefully. As soon as I set it up people brought me home made cookies randomly, I kept finding money on the street and I would get the best parking spaces everywhere I went! I no longer get weird spirits wandering around waking me up.
To fix exhaustion and heal unhealthy attatchments I first Heal and Seal any psychic leaks, then I look with my intuition to see who is draining me. I visualize pulling out thier hooks or sever any cords between us and send thier energy back to them. I can actually see streams of differnt colored mist or ribbons flowing back to the person. Finally, I call back my energy and it usually comes billowing back in great fluffly pink clouds, beautiful and Huge! I love this part because it feels so invigorating and blissful to have my energy return to me. It feels like a rush of love and I even have to sit down it is so intense. Often the exchange of energy is very one sided. Me giving lots of lovely energy and they sending stingy tainted strings of underwhelming Meh. From this point I will create a bubble of protection around myself so they can't re-attatch. Lately I have been making the visualized bubble wall clear and very thick. That seems to help me maintain my energy level and discourage others from leaching off me. I used to pray for the other person and heal and seal thier energy tears and leaks, but I don't bother anymore. It is funny, whenever I have removed and healed a bad attatchment to someone they call me up on the phone, out of the blue. I have often ignored calls and attempts ot contact me online for a time to create some space and new boundaries.
Thanks for reading. Please share any fun Empath hacks you use. I am fascinated by them.
By Indigo Dog, 2017-07-14
It was just before the cashiers lunch break. Her relief cashier had just arrived and stood by looking over the tiny woman's shoulder as she processed the customer's sale ahead of me. I could feel her exhuastion, her hunger and her sadness. She seemed beaten down and now to have the relief cashier irritated and nit picking her, I could feel her slide even further into overwhelming dispair. I placed my box of screws and can of paint on the check out counter and decided to try a little empathic/ psychic experiment. I love bombed her.
I brought myself into a meditative place of calm and kindness then prayed, called, summoned, whatever you call creating energy. In my mind I focused on that little cashier and asked God/ Source of all unconditional love how she looked to Him. I asked that I could travel through time and feel how her parents, her lovers, her baby, all of them; how much they loved her. Then I poured that energy vibration of adoration over her .
She went from dragging items over the check out scanner with downcast eyes to suddenly alert and surprised. She looked around her, smiling like a young girl in love as if searching for her lover in the crowd. She had felt it! She not only felt it but the energy of love had transformed that middle aged sad lady into a sparkling girl in seconds. She laughed, looked at me and finished the sale just beaming with joy. Her relief cashier even asked her what happedend.
I have used this technique on crying children in the grocery store too. It is fun. It doesn't leave me drained or tired like Reiki can sometimes. Sending someone a love wave or love bomb has become a hobby for me when I have to go in to crowds.
By Indigo Dog, 2017-07-04
I am a mature Empath now. Navigating through crowds and discerning my emotional stuff from others stuff is easy nowadays. I was 16 years old when I discovered that not everyone can feel what other people are feeling and thinking. I did spend a lot of time trying prove what I was experiencing was real in the early days. Back then there were no resources or internet or even discriptors for what was going on in me. Psychic was the closest word.
I got really good at helping people. I thought that was my calling. Why else would I have these talents and gifts? I sucked at maintaining good and healthy personal bounderies. I helped untill I had nothing left to give. I tried to dull out the empathic abilities in bad ways. I was dissolusioned and sad. I allowed myself to be the listener, comforter, healer, hero and helper. I discovered that rather than being able to ask for those same kindnesses in return I just got used, and those that loved the attention and care would vanish when I needed help and tenderness. I began to question mt psychic abilities.
Here I am now in my 50's so comfortable in my sensitive skin I can hardly believe it! I am getting better and better at saying "No." I have tools and techniques to filter out the energy vampires and minimize the negative impact that harsh emotional clutter can cause. I am making peace with who I am. My most delightful moments have been when I've met Empathics like me in casual life. It no longers bothers me that I can taste what some one is eating on the other end of the phone. I can tell if a friend or family member is freaking out and I don't let it control me.
Hello fellow sensitives, psychics and empaths. I'm glad to know you. You are loved.
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By The Importance of Being Jonny, 2017-06-03
A few days ago, I went on a wild astral adventure for the second time in England, where I could feel the British weather on my skin and see the architecture and even a metallic blue back beetle I had never seen before. Both "dreams" surrounded a friend named Nick who lives in England. Apparently, I travel to him on occasion because this is the second time I woke up with a recollection of where I had been. But the first time I had traveled out of the country, even though it was psychically. Being someplace astrally is way different than being someplace in a dream state. I could feel that I was there and recall the architecture not because I am remembering a dream, but because I saw it with my own eyes.
This experience was surrounding him and his fiance, Dannie. I saw lots of symbology in the dream which told me they stood for something. I interacted personally with Nick for the first time(we are internet friends) and also interacted with Dannie. I suppose he was taking me on an adventure showing me details of how he proposed to his girlfriend. I saw a small toy sized pool which upon sight instantly told me it was a symbol for a small body of water. I also saw a banjo or guitar that he was playing for her. We also all went to see a movie together, but I couldn't remember what movie it was. I woke up thinking it was a franchise and not a one time, no sequel movie.
Lastly, we were suddenly in my old bedroom back in Brooklyn where most of my dreams take place. I remember walking into my bedroom where I saw him and asked him if I can give him a reading. We are Facebook friends, so he knew what type of reading I meant because I talk about my being an empath and having all sorts of wild dreams. He said yes, of course. When I awoke, this told me that Nick would be receptive to my giving him what my dream self saw as a psychic reading. I approached him in a message on Facebook asking if I could ask him some questions regarding a dream I just had. He said of course. I without a doubt believe I had an astral experience where I got his permission to give him a reading which he did agree to.
The small body of water was confirmed to be a lake in London outside a hotel where he proposed. The movie was Guardians of the Galaxy Vol II. The guitar/banjo was the only thing he wasn't certain about, but said could relate to the type of song they chose for their wedding next year, which will be an acoustic version of a song. I believe that's why the banjo symbol came up because that and a regular non-electric guitar are used for acoustic performances. This was a first for me in regards to asking someone astrally for their permission to give a reading. That told me he would be okay if I were to tell him about my dream without scaring him away which I am often afraid of.
By mypath, 2017-05-28
let's talk, my world has always been of a helper and to be there for everyone else's emotional sounding board. I'm the one that takes the edge off that listens to reason and lead you to a better place. But in doing this I am drained physically and emotionally. My brain is scrambled like a ball of yarn. I find myself enjoying the solitude more than I should. Because the solitude is less chaos. I need to unscramble the ball of yarn and work towards my own needs and self-care.
I find that most aren't comfortable being alone and that they have to have others to help them and work through their emotional baggage. Here we talk about triggers,emotional, managing, protecting but what about detaching? The more I read the less I understand. Are we to find ourselves in a cold callous prison meant to protect ourselves, do we detach from our family members that don't understand or have trouble conceiving the idea of an empath. Do you label it and then talk in circles do we really need 1000 words? Some are truly struggling We need the now help, not the 25 steps to protect yourself. We need to know it's real, we need to know solutions, we need answers. How can we put ourselves out there if there's no real concise answers and solutions to our emotional well-being . Are we overwhelmed or just lonely and need another club so that we can you chat with others tortured souls of misfits.