By Ember, 2017-03-29
Hello fellow Empaths
I feel compelled to put this out here today. I am sitting behind my keyboard gripped with fear, anxiety and every other overwhelming emotion. I have decided that I am not going to hide in the Empath closet any longer! I am going to start being true to myself and to others. I am going to let people know I am an Empath and what that means in my life. Now some people may not know how to take that. That's fine. I have a feeling people I know are going to think I am crazy and that's fine. But I can no longer hide who I am for the sake of others. Because honestly, as an Empath it is making me ill. If I am sick then I am no good to anyone else.
I have known I am Empath now for many years and I practice trying to protect myself. But lately, it's been difficult. There have been alot of personal issues going on in my life and I have had a chance to re-evaluate it. Now I have decide to take my life in a whole new direction. A direction that I know in my heart is going to be the best for me.
To be honest the whole thing terrifies me. I am really fearful of doing this. Stopping and switching rails mid-way through your life is hard.
I can not live in fear any longer! The longer I live in fear the longer it wins. The longer I stay ill. Today, I am standing in the face of fear. I am opening the closet door and stepping outside! Who know's where it is going to take me, but I know it can only get better because worse has already happened!
I wish you all a wonderful day, and please be true to yourself! Let us all stop hiding our Empath selves because we can only make the world a better place!
By Trevor Lewis, 2017-03-22
"Working the Chakras For Empaths"
Why this exercise?
Many “New Age” teachers talk about, and teach from the perspective of, opening the chakras (if you are not familiar with the chakras, they are energy centers that are part of our energetic body; more details in a moment). For highly sensitive people, and particularly empaths this opening up is not necessary. If anything we are already far too open. Empaths tend to live life with their metaphorical hands outstretched saying “gimme, gimme” to all the stray emotions that are flying by them. The challenge is to be able to pull back and not take on so much.
This exercise is about contracting the chakras so as to be more discerning about boundaries and take on less of other people’s energies. Although this exercise talks about “closing” the chakras, STAYING closed is not the purpose of the exercise. A door is not a door if it is open all the time (it’s a hole in the wall), nor is it a door if in closed all the time (it’s part of the wall). A door is meant to be opened and closed. Similarly, it is not appropriate to walk around with our physical hands open all the time nor closed in a fist all the time. We want to be able to open and close our hands at will, at appropriate times.
We go into a gym to exercise our muscles by flexing them against weights. This exercise is about learning to flex our chakras so that we can better expand and contract them as appropriate to our surroundings. We will go through the exercise contracting each chakra and then, at the end, allow them to expand out again to an appropriate level.
Introduction to the Chakras
The chakras are energy centers that have been part of the Indian mystical tradition for thousands of years. They are spinning wheels located at seven centers in the body as shown in the table below:
Attributes of the chakra
Base of the spine
Grounding, security, survival
Pelvis below the navel
Creativity, pleasure, money
Belly just below the solar plexus
Personal power, willpower, confidence.
Bonding with others, caring , compassion, love of self and others
3rd eye (between the eyebrows)
Seeing, both inner and out worlds. Intuition. Wisdom. Consciousness
Violet / Gold / White
Crown of head
Connection to the universe, The Divine, Being
When the first chakra is too open, we get caught up in the material world and forget that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
When the second chakra is too open, we focus too much on base pleasures; sex, money and having a good time.
When the third chakra is too open, we are too open to other people’s power and will to the detriment of who we are ourselves.
When the fourth chakra is too open, we may be overly caring of others, again to our own detriment.
When the fifth chakra is too open, we may be over communicating and sharing too much of ourselves.
When the sixth chakra is too open, we may become spaced out with the knowledge of higher worlds while losing our grounding in the physical world in which we live.
When the seventh chakra is too open, we may drift off into the ether and forget that we are supposed to be having a human experience in a physical body.
Most top athletes in every sport use visualization techniques. They’re an important part of sports training. Mental coaches would say they’re the key to peak performance in almost every discipline in life. If these techniques works for top performers, it only makes sense to apply them to ourselves in our everyday lives.
With all mental exercises, it’s not about HOLDING a thought, it’s about FOCUSING a thought. One analogy is to treat the mind like an active child when you want them to sit still. You are going to tell them to stay where they are, but sooner or later they will get distracted and start wandering off. You bring them back, they sit still for a while, and then the process starts all over again. When your mental attention wanders off from the subject of focus, gently bring it back. Keep repeating the process. Just bring your attention back to your subject. Do not worry about having thoughts; they are natural. Do not try. Let it be . . . easy!
The most important part about any mental exercise is that it be done with intent.
Variations of this exercise
With each chakra we are going to “tighten up” the chakra and concentrate its energies. There are (at least) three styles of visualization that you can use for this:
- Visualize a shutting door and locking it with a golden key.
- Visualize a lotus flower contracting from full bloom back into a tight bud.
- Visualize a ball, or a doughnut, contracting into a small tight sphere
Decide which form feels best for you and work with that one form through the full exercise.
The Chakra Exercise
Begin sitting comfortably where you can be undisturbed for ten minutes (this is a relatively quick exercise). Take a few deep breaths to settle down into your body. Connect into the ground by imagining you are growing roots from your legs, through the soles of your feet, deep down into the center of the earth.
- Start with the first chakra at the base of the spine. This is colored red. Using whatever imagery you have chosen, a red door, a red lotus flower or a red sphere now is the time to close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flower back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Move up to the second chakra in the pelvis below the naval. This is colored orange. Close the door, tighten the lotus bud, or constrict the sphere.
- When you are complete with the second chakra, check on your first chakra again and ensure that red chakra is still closed tight. Check on the second, orange chakra again and then move up to the third chakra in the belly just below the solar plexus. This color is yellow. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- When you are complete with the third chakra, check back to the first, second and third chakra in turn and ensure they are closed tight. Now move up to the fourth chakra in your heart center. This color is green. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the heart before moving up to the fifth chakra at the throat. This color is blue. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the throat before moving up to the sixth chakra at the third eye between the eyebrows. This color is indigo, deep midnight blue. Close and lock the door with a golden key, fold the lotus flow back into a tight bud or contract the sphere down into a tight ball.
- Repeat the process from the base of the spine back up to the third eye before moving up to the seventh chakra at the crown of your head. This color is violet, gold, or maybe just a pure white light. How does it show up for you? Don’t close this one all the way down. Tighten it up but leave the connection open up to the heavens. Stay connected to The Universe, to your God Source.
Relax. Take a few deep breaths. Scan through all seven charkas one more time with the intention of opening them up to the appropriate amount to go back into the outside world. Reconnect into the ground by imagining you are growing roots from your legs, through the soles of your feet, deep down into the center of the earth.
Using this exercise
You can repeat this exercise even a few times a day. Once you are familiar with it you can run it from start to finish in only a minute or less. You can repeat this anytime you feel like you are taking on too much energy from the world around you, whether it be from one person or many.
When you are in a safe, healing space you can use this exercise to open up; either when you are working on somebody or when another healer is working on you. Just remember to contract again at the end of the healing session.
By Emmy Long, 2017-03-07
I've been lurking around the community for a few days now. It's wonderful to be back again. The new site is so nice! I can't wait to start sharing and learning with all of you again.
I took some time for myself while I was going through some struggles and now I'm feeling as good as new!
By weary_soul, 2017-03-05
I am not sure of the reason why I seemed to not be able to separate myself from others emotions. However , recently I was in a car accident which my injuries have cause a lot of distress. Pain comes and goes as I do certain things
I am less able to do many things I always was able to do. The thing is I notice a difference in my empath abilities occurring before the accident but nowhere near what I have experienced since the accident. I had become quite competent in separating my emotions from others for a long time. My abilities began to increase r intensify right before the accident. I found myself picking up others emotions from a distant with just a thought or a mention of their name. Then I began to avoid public -places because I would pick up on anyone who had a high amount of anxiety whether that bwe anger or sadness or fear or happiness. I was practicing placing myself in a bublle and keeping those emotions from others in check. Since the accident I have struggle significantly with responding to others negative emotions. In the doctors office I picked up on all the emotions of those working there and those patients coming in to get treatment. Because it's treats mostly spinal and neck injuries there is a lot of physical therapy which gives me time to focus on mindfulness and pushing others emotions away from me. One of the other things I notice which was beginning before the accident but seems to expedient is feeling emotions of others while talking on the phone. I have exploded on the phone a few times while receiving others anger emotions during a conversation. The only way to I was and have been able to handle it was to hang up and not answered the phone of the one whose emotions I picked up. For me this is very distressing cause I do not like and make every effort not to respond back to or in anger to anyone. My question what I came here to sought out was if the Physical incapaibiliti3es and the p[ain from my accident making more receptive to others emotions and thought patterns. Has this extreme intensity of others emotions since the accident a side effect of the accident.? Being the reason I am experiencing pain is because of my spine being badly injured, Could the sensitivity the increase of empath ability, which is overwhelming me, be tied to my spinal condition? One thing I had noticed that was not so pronounce is that I am not just picking up one emotion from others but it seems like I am picking up all the emotions they are experiencing. With my own emotions i8nteracting also this is causing a lot of anxiety, lack of sleep, focus issues on reading or studying. AHH one bright side is when my great niece comes over I experience all of her emotions,she seems to respond to all of what I am feeling. I know she not yet two but I think she may be empath also.
By bijoublue, 2017-03-04
In childhood I had a powerful innate intuitive relationship with god and the spiritual world.
I wasn't taught about spirituality or religion by my parents. They did not have a faith based belief system, so my relationship with my spirituality was kept hidden from them.
Raised in an home with the textbook narcissistic family structure, communication is dysfunctionally oppressed and it's kept that way through threats of rejection or abandonment.
I was parentified starting in 2nd grade.
I knew the truth of who my mom was and how terrible her abuse was towards my sister. I knew my mom was lying when she blamed my sister for the family dysfunction.
I vowed to not be like her.
Instead, I married her.
C-PTSD took me out of life. The trauma of the abusive marriage triggered my old wounds that I didn't know I had.
The survival instinct will change how you think and it will hide how unsafe and fearful you felt as a child. My brain knew my mom was abusive, aggressive, violent and unable to love.. but it blocked me from seeing I was abused too. The lost child who's purpose was to emotionally support her fragile mom. Was unloved, exploited and abused too.
It's the wound of aloneness
I lost part of my soul and I became conditIoned and experienced living the human condition. I lived in body. Part of My soul went into hiding.
Not having a hold on my reality I left the marriage and worked on healing.
The kundalini was a response to trauma healing. I thought I was having a break down. Things surfaced so fast I had no choice but to process it. I laid on my bedroom floor and grieved for my whole family, including my mom. It was a feeling I had not experienced before.
When I surrendered to the fear of feeling these feelings... it stopped and I was filled with unconditional love and humility.
I saw my shadow and instead of hating it and hiding it, I understood it and accepted it. I had reached self love and self acceptance. I experienced pure enlightenment for about a week. But I was forever changed.
I was shown truth. But the ego, it just gets new attachments, If we don't resolve the fear. For two years I've been in different places, different levels of awareness. I doubted my experience and I just wanted my life back.
The process continued as I received more knowledge and more clarity and I don't know how I knew things. My awareness moved past self awareness to family awareness to world awareness.
I saw the veil of deceit and realized I've always seen it and that shows in my apathy towards politics, I don't vote and I have no clue what's going on.
My inability to conform to corporate America.. but somehow managed a successful career.
The beliefs I had about institutions as s while, reflected what I found to be true.
All of this was inside me the whole time, but I lacked awareness.
The last thing to surface were my fears I was oblivious to.
This was also the hardest part.
My fears happened, every single one. What I fought my entire life to keep myself safe from experiencing rejection, failure, success, and mostly my mothers abandonment, I made it happen.. it was me that subconsciously put myself in positions or acted in ways that would make my hidden fears a reality.
It took awhile to process, but by experiencing those fears and surviving them, it released them. It brought them up and out. I finally understood.
My childhood resulted in the hidden negative belief that I'm not worthy of happiness or success. I was a subconscious self sabotager controlled by fear.
The journey to my core was amazing. It felt terrible, but with every moment of feeling terrible, I got deeper.
With complete surrender, I got answers.
With answers... I detached and let go. There was pain.. there was fear that I wouldn't survive, mostly My moms abandonment, and when it happened I felt like I was dying, it was unbearable. I floated in between consciousness and ego.. I wasn't in either place, I had no identity. I was just energy.
There is no good or bad, right or wrong.
Everything just is..
I forgave myself and my family and I feel compassion for their pain.
Then I walked into my power.
I am free.
It occurred to me, is it what we fight the hardest for what we fear?
Life isn't meant to be a struggle.
Fear controls you and steals your free will.
It was with surrender at every level that I eventually retrieved my soul fragment.
I integrated my left and right hemisphere of my brain. I have logic now. I wasn't living in just the emotional body or right brain anymore.
I have Integration of thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
I have balance in the mind, body and soul.
I did this alone. Without guidance from a therapist.
This is in all of us. We know everything already, we just don't know that we know.
We all have miraculous abilities to heal ourselves and raise our consciousness.
I felt energy my whole life. I knew that everything is made of energy, that energy is life.
Now I see how we are all one in this energy.
I see how life is love.
When we lose fear and move into love based thinking. We become alive.
This is because we live in the moment and we understand that the moment is all that exists. Their is no past or future.
Fear is an illusion. It doesn't exist in the world. It exists in our minds created by how we think. It's survival instinct gone haywire.
Love is existence. You feel it when you don't think.
Surrender was my answer.
By Angel.Light-Worker, 2017-02-27
By Mythical Spark, 2017-02-20
Back in December, 2015, I was in a bookstore, one of the major book retailers in the UK, and I was just looking around for nothing in particular and I had some books that I was going to purchase and I was just doing a brief last look at some odds and ends before going to the checkout to purchase the books I had and I was at a rotary of things like games and stuff and I come across a deck of tarot cards.
I was never the one for divination and I'm not much of a believer in them or anything like that but the general idea interests me for some reason, so I thought I'd pick up a deck while there, mostly just for fun. I had used them once or twice on the first couple of days of getting them and gave it no real thought.
Then, this afternoon, I picked them up again, just for a bit of fun I guess. I thought perhaps I could channel some of my own 'energy' or 'essence' or whatever into them as I clasped them in both hands so as they be 'in tune' with me as I used them for information.
The instructions were to draw 4 cards, A; B; C and D. A being what's at hand, B being past influences, C being 'ponder this' and D being what to do.
Anyway, for A I drew XV: The Devil; for B I drew IV of Swords; for C I drew III of Pentacles and for D I drew XVII the Star.
I consulted the book for information on the cards and what they represent/mean and it seemed to make a far amount of sense of what was at hand, or what I had asked in my mind before shuffling and dealing out the cards but I don't want to read too much into it as I understand and know that these things require interpretation and I know that there is probably just as many possible interpretations as there are people.
But then again, I don't wish to seem close minded and I like to be open minded to possibilities that there might be and I guess that there are people who might be more au fait about such things who might be able to actually shed light on such things.
I do not wish to disclose what was at hand or what I had inquired mentally before dealing out the cards as I feel it's a bit of a personal matter, not that it's anything embarrassing or anything against anyone, it's just that I'd rather keep it personal.
By Paul Watkiss, 2017-02-18
Society largely considers what is normal by the agreed consensus of the majority. If I was in complete agreement with this then most of my communication in the outside world would consist of the phrase under which this is written.
Indeed being empathic ( energetically sensitive) I feel that many of us find growing up and maturing in the outside world something of a unique challenge.
At an early age we may discover that we are different from our peers and often our parents.
The constant emphasis when at school and by others on the physical, percievable, allegedly concrete world felt as if most people only lived in a 2D reality. Their world seemed to have little depth, a linear monologue of an existence.
My awareness of my sensitivity and my spiritual path are inextricably entwined. Indeed being energetically sensitive has helped create a somewhat unique spirituality in me that is reflected in many aspects of other belief systems ( that is Buddhism, Hinduism, Pantheism and Taoism to name a few).
Through many conversations that I have had with others with similar experiences it seems we have much in common when it comes to living our lives and the challenges we face. For example, having been born into a society which operates on a model that is the antithesis of what we feel to be right. This can lead to :
- subsequent feelings of loneliness and alienation which may lead to social withdrawal, addictive behaviors ( in order to numb our sensitivity) or wearing a socially acceptable mask in order to fit in.
If we do this however we compromise our ability to individuate and fully bloom into complete self actualization. This may leave us feeling unfulfilled and frustrated.
- having to constantly assert our needs to others as most people presume that our needs must be similar to theirs ( in terms of space, down time, opportunity to be creative etc)
- finding oneself in constant conflict with others and institutions that prioritize materialism and egotism
- having the desire for honest, open, loving human contact but mostly having to compromise due to the apparent lack of individuals who are unable to form relationships that do not involve some degree of attachment and / or dependence.
Despite the difficulties encountered on my path and the many years spent in a spiritual wilderness, it has all been worth it. For every challenge I have faced has shaped me and furthered my understanding of the world in which we live.
The ability to experience the external and internal worlds in such a searing depth and excruciating beauty has led to a true appreciation of lifes pulchritude.
Any solace that I have needed has come largely from my inner self and has not been found in relationships within my social circle. For those that have found some with others, you are truly fortunate.
So if over the years, you yourself have been your main source of solace, rest assured.
To have retained your authenticity and to still be here is testament to your inner strength and tenacity.
By Angel, 2017-02-14
I just woke up after my husband and I took a much needed nap. I often don't like sleeping in the afternoons because I seem to have the strangest dreams, but when Spirit comes, it's always in dreams I have at night, this was the first time it has come during an afternoon nap. I'm writing this down to keep a record of it since there appears to have an important message attached to it. Most of the dream I don't remember, as usual, just to the point where Spirit enters is what is written. For me, Spirit often comes as people in the dream, but I can usually recognize them through looking at their eyes, they are usually more solid and is conscience. I this dream I missed it until the end.
My dream started with my two younger kids (now teenagers) when they were young, daughter was about 5 and my son about 4. (They are 15 months apart). We were being chased the creepy "The Ring" girl. She was chasing us around this hotel,trying to kill us. She also had a daughter with her. So the kids and I started running. My son fell behind and they almost caught him but I snatched him up just in time. We lost them for a short time and I stopped and talked directly to my son. I can't remember what he said, he just kept saying something wrong and I kept correcting him. I was just happy we were safe. They found us again and we started running. We were blocked in an area where we were trapped. My daughter ran up to the wall and shapeshifted into a maniquin, then my son sat up against the wall with his hands wrapped around his knee and also shapeshifter. But they weren't full maniquin, they just looked like it. Right around the corner I saw a door and ran into the room. I tried getting the kids to follow me, but my son smiled and said "no, he's got this". The creepy lady and her daughter were walking around the kids like they were confused and trying to find the kids. I knew it was only a matter of time before they found them, so I decided to distract her. I opened while standing behind it. When they were walking through the doorway, I slammed the door on her a few times, she held something in her hand and cut me with it. I finally hit them enough times to take them down long enough for me to run past them and grab the kids. As we were runnning, the dream switched to the creepy lady giving my blood to some scientist guy who wanted to use my blood to track us down. Then it switched back to the kids and I. We kept running and had my son in hand and my daughter was right behind us, then she disappeared. I started freaking out but I knew they didn't have her, but we had to find her before they did. We walked by an open doorway and I saw her run across something out of the corner of my eye. I went in and grabbed her...fast. I asked why separated from us and she said she didn't, we left her. I told her we didn't leave her, I looked back and she was gone and she looked at me in the eye and said "But Mommy, that's how they get you, when you let things get in the way." And then I woke up.
I don't know who the Spirit is, I just know this is a message, an important one. I know who "they" are, but the rest I will need to figure out, soon.
By Angel.Light-Worker, 2017-02-14
HI- New here- Or shall I say rejoined!
I finally had my awakening about a year ago. I have learned so much about who I really am, What I really can see, the places that I have been, and so much I really have learned.
But best of all is my Horse- The end of what was my life , I didn't know that I would have ended up my Dr telling me I needed help with all my past issues. But I never believed in shrinks.. My Dr. also knew I loved animal's -The happiest I am is in the woods, and I had been at a stable renting horses. So? I called my friend who rented horses and boarded them.
When I got there I rode in the woods of 600 acres on a horse I always rented. When I returned to the stable, they were unloading this beautiful but very thin, sad, depressed horse. She was lead to the pasture. She had been in the Flood that happened in this state, and was left in a bard for 3 months,, he muscle tone was gone she could hardly walk, But the owner wanted to board her there. As I untacked the horse I had rented, I asked about the thin horse.. The girl told me she was going to leave her there, and see if she could find someone to buy her or lease her. Days went by, I found that going to the stable was my place of confort. I also had decided I would buy a horse of my own and board it there,,
Then one day. I went into the pasture, The thin paint was where I was walking, she turned and look at me. I looked at her, and I felt this deep, emotional caring bond. I walked up to her, she stood there facing me- I looked deep into her eyes. There was a connection.. I had goose bumps all over me,, I shivered, and I put my hand out and she touched my had with her velvet nose.. There we were, Like in a trance- staring at each other, She pushed her head on my chest,, I stroked both sides of her head, neck and I cried,, I could feel her pain, he past trauma . I felt a warm like sunlight around us.. I stood there for it seemed forever. I talked to her, I felt her heart beats, I turned around to walk back and talk to the lady that owned the stables.. She walked beside me. All the way back to the barn.
I made arrangements to talk to the owner- She then sold her to me. That was a year ago in April. And from her I have learned so much. She understands me, I know, I know her every thought. But Hopefully you will see the pitcher I downloaded . Its taken in the woods where we ride. Its a spiritual cemetery , there a family of people buried there from the Revolutionary War.. Its fenced there, I get chills there, Its sad, but 2 weeks ago I rode her there, and a friend took this pitcher.. I was stunned when Saw how it came out- yet? I have other photos of angels around me at a place of Indian spiritual Grounds under a natural spring water fall... Walking my dog.. I hope I get feed back if the pitcher of myself and Dolly turn out in the blog-- Thank You for reading...... "Stand In The Light"