Note: This blog post is part of a series on psychic development. The index for the series is here.
Fear. The process of embracing one's psychic ability requires facing and conquering two types of fear. The first typewe've talked about some already - this is the fear that you can't do it, that you're not good enough, or smart enough, or worthy enough to call yourself psychic.
After we toss out this fear, though, a second one rears its head - the fear that you CAN do it. This fear starts as questions like, "What if I see something bad?" and"What if I can't control it?", which, atthe foundation, all comes back to one main question, which is, "What if this new ability I have causespainto me orsomeone else?"
Human brains are wired to resist change, to fear things that we don't know and don't understand. One way that we make sense of things that we don't understand is to create rules. These rules help us to feel comfortable with the things in our environment that are desperately important, but that we have no control over. We can't change whether the sun rises or sets, for example, but we can seek to understand why it does.Apollo carried the sun across the sky each day in his golden chariot, not because he actually did, but because we needed him to.
When we are about to embark on a new experience, most people seek to understand as much as they can about what they are likely to experience. They try to find out the rules that govern the new experience. New college students find out when they have to register for classes, they find out how the meal plan works, and how many credits are required for graduation in their chosen field of study. Travelers to foreign countries find out what documents they need to take with them, whether or not their cell phone will work there, and what the currency exchange rate is.
When embarking on the journey that is the psychic experience, understanding the rules, even if those rules must be created from scratch, helps to combat the fear that you really, truly, are powerfully psychic.It is for this reason thathaving apersonal code of ethics is an indispensable part of psychic work. I read this excellent articleon the blog "Psychic but Sane" recently and highly recommend that you read it too.
In addition to the suggestions that the article provides, I would recommend that you add one commandment that you hold dear above all others, which is this: DO NOT OFFER PSYCHIC ASSISTANCE UNLESS ASKED. What I mean by this is that you should not, under any circumstances, tell anyone that you've received any psychic information about them, UNLESS THEY ASK.
Where exactly to draw the line on this question can be tricky sometimes, and can vary on a case-by-case basis. As a general rule, what I recommend is that it's okay to say that you're psychic and that you'd be happy to do a reading on the issue if they'd like, but it's not okay to say that you know what the answer is and you'd be happy to tell them what you know, if they want you to. I hope that the difference there is clear. In the first case, you haven't invaded their privacy by looking at their issue psychically.You don't actually know anything yet, because they haven't given their permission for you to look into their business. In the second case, you've already received some type of information that you're withholding from them for whatever reason, a reason that you're requiring them to guess at, which winds up the fear response and makes them ask you even if they don't really want to.
Requiring people to ask for your help ensures that they actually want your help. It sounds simple, but it's important. It's also difficult, especially for empaths. The first exercise in this segment will ask you to work on this concept.
The second exercise in this segment is practice with keeping information confidential. As a psychic, you have priviledged access to the deep, dark parts of people's souls. You may know things about someone that not even their doctor, priest, therapist, or spouse knows. It's your job to create a safe space for the exploration and eventual healing of the things in life that torment all of us, and the first necessary condition for that is privacy. Confidentiality is just as important with you, apsychic,as it is with a medical doctor, psychologist, banker, or attorney. It's important that you keep confidences, which is why I believethis is the#1 principle in the code of ethics article that I mentioned above.
Having a few simple rules like these in place will help to combat the fear that you really CAN do it, that you truly are psychic. At some point during the next couple of weeks, I want you to create a code of ethics that feels good to you andwrite it down in your journal.